Are You Beating Yourself Up for the Past?


During my Tuesday evening yoga class this week, our instructor asked us to share a quote. I had worked with a coaching client earlier that day and thought about our conversation and what she was struggling with. I boiled our entire conversation down to one sentence that just rolled off my tongue. 

“Beating yourself up for the past doesn’t allow you freedom in the present”. 

Think about that for a minute.

How many things are you carrying around from your past that you haven’t forgiven yourself for? 

Maybe you deliberately said or did something mean to someone.

Maybe you didn’t handle a certain situation well on your end.

Maybe you really didn’t show up the way you wanted to in your life at a certain point and you aren’t proud of it.

Are you carrying around a 30# bag of rocks behind your back… metaphorically speaking?

If you are, let me share with you what I asked of her.

Who benefits when you don’t forgive or let go of what you did wrong? Do you benefit? Your significant other? Your friends? Children? Colleagues? 

Don’t we already have enough suffering in the world?

If you beat yourself up for the next 20 years, will then be the time to let it go? If not, when will you know you’ve suffered enough? 

We need more light and love, and peace in the world, period. 

If you continue to beat yourself up for the past, your pain doesn’t bring more peace. It brings more negativity.  

To you.

And by extension, on an energetic level, to others around you.

There is no amount of personal suffering and pain that will absolve you of your past mistakes or regrets. God isn’t going to reach her hand down from the sky, touch your shoulder and say, “Ok, you’re forgiven now”. 

It’s up to you.

If you want to make amends with a certain person, by all means do that. Whether or not they forgive you is up to them.

Then you can simply say, I forgive myself for what I did.

You’ve learned from that mistake, you’re a different person now.

So live from the place of being that new person. 

That is how you’ll bring more love and light into the world.

No suffering required.

Please share if you know just the perfect person who needs this.

~ Susan

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