Gratitude

In Everything, Give Thanks

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There’s a sign that sits atop a windowsill in one of the yoga studios I frequently visit. 

It says, “In Everything, Give Thanks.”

Read it again.

What do these words mean to you?

Really, take just a few minutes to reflect on this. I’m going to leave some space below for you to do that before you read on.











I’ve bolded the first two words because how often are you thankful for what’s good in your life and are either not thankful for, or skip over, what you think isn’t so great?

I bring this up because we live in a “feel good culture”. A culture where we’re “supposed” to strive towards the good life, feeling amazing, living up to your full potential, being as healthy as you can, etc…

I’m not saying these aren’t great aspirations, they are. What I’m saying is that it isn’t “real” life, and never will be. Life is a tapestry. Full of awesome, amazing experiences. Full of terrible, horrible experiences. And everything in-between. Of course it’s human nature to not want to live in the crap experiences. But we need them. 

When I think of really giving thanks for everything, I not only think of all the awesome people, animals, access to nature, and material comfort items I have in my life, but I also think about current and past experiences that seem and seemed so negative and horrid. If I really take the time, I notice that if certain, crappy things hadn’t happened, there wouldn’t have been space for other people or experiences to come into my life. 

The times that seemed so hard and painful were often the catalyst for times that were joyful and fun. 

It’s the same for the present. I’m betting not everything in your life is hunky dory at the moment. You wish certain issues weren’t happening or want something to be different than it is. I am no different from you. It’s called life.

One of the truths about life is that it’s always changing. It will continue to do so. That’s something to celebrate. It means that whatever is going on in this moment that you don’t like, 10 minutes from now, either it could be different, or you could not be focusing on it, therefore it might seem different. Or your perspective about it might change, and it might not seem so bad. No matter what, things will change, or you will. 

Life is one big incredible mystery. It’s going to always be a roller coaster ride. Ups, downs, twists, turns, smooth and bumpy. It can’t be an other way. 

No need to change anything. Not your thinking. Not your feelings. Think what you think in the moment. Feel what you feel in the moment. Your thoughts and feelings will shift and change on their own like the weather if you let them. 

You don’t ever have to be thankful the hard stuff. There are no “shoulds”. It’s just an idea. Something to sit with.

So it’s time for that hiatus I said I was taking. As I mentioned before, I have no idea why my own inner voice is telling me to stop doing something I enjoy for a while, but it is. There must be something I need to learn, experience, or do. So I trust.

Thank you for being part of my little community. I love to hear from you and always appreciate your kind words when you reach out to me to let me know something I shared helped you or struck a cord. There is SO much good in the world. 

I’m sending you warm wishes for a fantastic finish to 2018. I’ll be back at some point in 2019. We’ll see what happens between now and then.

Until then, take a peek at the idea of Giving Thanks, In Everything.

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~ Susan

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Grace

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The word grace is thrown around a lot. If you look up it’s meaning, you will find a multitude of definitions. Enough that you (or maybe it’s just me) can get really confused about what it really does mean.

As I sit here near the end of December pondering Kwanzaa, Christmas, Hanukkah, and the Winter Solstice, I think about Grace. 

The best, easiest, most simple definition I’ve found for grace is gift.

Yes, GIFT.

In this sense it fits into every definition. 

This time of year, as well as any other you choose, every moment of your life even, you can think about what gifts you have in your life. 

Is it your job? Friends? Family? Health? Pets? Nature? Your neighbors? The squirrel in your yard? The food in your fridge? The shoes on your feet? Clean water? Money in the bank?

It’s all a gift. Even if you worked for it. Or didn’t.

Do you know what the best thing you can do is when you’ve been given a gift? Any gift?

Just say thank you.

Really. That’s all that’s needed. Thank you means you appreciate the gift you’ve been given. 

There’s a sign in one of the yoga studios I frequent that says, “Give thanks, for everything”. Even the grace you receive that you don’t really want. People who seem careless, a health scare, a car accident. Everything that happens can be a wake-up call , an invitation for you to listen, to pay attention to your life. To decide how you want to show up when things are going well, and when they aren’t.

You have grace. Say thank you. Pay attention. 

Happy Holidays to You!!

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~ Susan

Helping You Live A Slower, Simpler Life

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The Leaves Are A Changin'

October. When hurricanes swirl. When the temperatures cool down. When the light in the sky lessens each day. And when Mother Nature turns on the heat. A lot is going on in our country and the world right now. A LOT. And honestly, it has been waring. I don’t know about you but I’m weary.

Which is why I’m so grateful for nature this time of year. She turns on the color as she so majestically sheds leaves preparing for the next season.

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You can put whatever meaning you want to this time of year. Some people love it because it means the return of cooler temperatures and some people hate it because it means the return of cooler temperatures.

But I don’t know of a single person that doesn’t enjoy the absolutely stunning color party that comes every fall. You don’t need to do a thing but enjoy the various shades and hews of orange, yellow, red, and purple. Be grateful if you have the sight to see and experience it.

Be thankful we still have trees preparing to shut down for winter. For the beauty they bring, the oxygen they supply, and for being a huge part of the entire cycle of life.

Many of those leaves will be gone soon, so enjoy them while you can this next few weeks. You won’t get a show like this for another year.

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~ Susan

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