Do You Have A Hard Time Making Decisions?

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Do you know what can stop people from making decisions? 

Fear.

Fear of making the wrong choice. 

Fear of having regrets.

That can keep any sane person from choosing a direction. 

The people that have the most enjoyable and fulfilling lives, said to themselves, you know what, this scares the hell out of me. What if I spend this $10,000 on this new business venture and it fails?

What if I choose to move 5000 miles away to be with a person I’m in love with and it doesn’t work out?

What if I join a new group and I don’t like anyone and end up being bored out of my mind?

This fear is just your mind trying to keep you safe, keep you out of harms way.

That’s one of its jobs.

To keep you breathing, heart beating, cells moving, away from any danger.

And here’s a fun fact about your brain. It doesn’t know the difference between a real fear and a perceived one. What?

Let me repeat that. Your brain does not know the difference between an actual real in reality threat and one you think up in your mind.

Example. Have you ever been in a car accident? Even a little fender bender? If you have, what happened during that time? Did your heart rate go up? Breathing get fast and shallow? Did you sweat?

Now, just imagine lying in bed at night thinking about your finances and wondering if the stock market might crash. Does your heart rate go up, breathing get shallow, do you sweat?  See, just the thought of something going wrong puts your body into fear mode, even if it’s not real. That is the power of the mind.

It doesn’t know the difference between a real threat and just thinking about a possible threat in the future. 

Here’s an important note on the difference between real fear and imagined fear.

REAL fear doesn’t think and worry. It responds. When you’re in the moment and something bad happens you just act. You don’t “think” about it, you just do it. It’s almost like you don’t have time to be afraid because you don’t. This is why when you hear of someone being trapped under a car that’s burning then some 100 pound woman is able to pick up a car off a that person, they can. They don’t sit around and think, oh, I should grab the car by the front end, shit it over 2 feet and three inches, and that will take about 5 minutes. NO, they just go do it.

FALSE fear is worry. Worry that your choices could end in disaster and you’ll end up homeless at the bottom of a ditch under a bridge. Is it possible? Sure. Likely? Not really.

What does this have to do with making decisions?

Well, if your brain is worried about all the things that could happen in the future and could go wrong, it will tell you no you shouldn’t do that. You must stay safe.

Of course a million things could go wrong and not work out. And if a million things went wrong and you do end up in a ditch, you are one resourceful human being. Most of us are. You will make a plan to get out of that ditch and move forward. 

On the flip side, a million things could go right and work out really well. But you don’t know. No one knows.

Here’s the best news in all of this.

No matter what decisions you make and what directions you go in, at any point along the way, you can change your mind.

Yep. YOU can change your mind. You are in charge of your mind, even if it doesn’t seem like it. If you’re not, you need to be.

The people that have regrets are the people that didn’t go after what they wanted, not the people that chose to move 5000 miles for love. Yes, it might now work out, but they at least gave it a try. 

When you don’t try, you give up all possibility that you might get what you want. 

Please share if you know just the perfect person who needs this.

~ Susan

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