We humans are incredibly resilient, creative, wise, and resourceful at our core. All of the time. 24/7. It is innate within each of us. No exceptions.
We have the capacity and ability to deal with any situation at any given time.
The story I am about to share will shine a light on this very truth. There are some details that may be a bit disturbing so I wanted to give you a heads up.
I spent the last few weeks on the East coast attending my 25th college reunion and visiting family. The first part of my trip went well. I got to visit the old and new of my college campus and see some people I hadn’t seen in a loooong time.
Then I drove to a small town in NC where I met a close relative I’ll call Flo. Flo had driven from Florida to meet me and we were there to visit some other family who lived there. We had a lovely time going out for lunch then visiting for a while before returning to our hotel room for the evening. We planned to get up for breakfast and have a leisurely stroll of the area since the weather was cool and inviting.
And as they say, “This is where the plan diverged”.
At 1:04 am I awoke to the sound of Flo having a grand mal seizure in the bed next to me. In this case, the seizure started with a blood curdling yell, followed by what sounded like intense sobbing. I initially thought Flo was having a terrible nightmare. So as much as the sounds she was making frightened me, I left the lights off and I figured it would stop soon.
Except within a few moments I realized something else was going on. She started shaking violently in her bed. It was dark and I was disoriented after just being awoken but I instinctively knew something was very wrong.
I jumped up, turned on the lights and went over to Flo. I called her name and shook her shoulders trying to wake her up. She wouldn’t wake up. Her eyes were sealed shut. She was foaming at the mouth and had heavy breathing. I waited a short while longer to see if she would respond, and when she didn’t, I dialed 9-1-1.
That was the first time I have dialed 9-1-1 in my entire life. As I spoke with the operator something in my knew to remain as calm as possible. She asked me many questions and gave me instructions as I waited for the ambulance to arrive. If you’ve ever been in an emergency like this then maybe you have experienced “the time standing still feeling”. I have no idea how long it took for the ambulance to arrive but I can tell you it seemed like it happened both quickly and also like it took forever.
They took her to the ER and I met her there. She had finally awakened and was completely disoriented. She kept asking me the same few questions over and over again. Where were we? What happened? Where were we staying? After a while she started to remember the events of the day and evening before we went to bed. Thankfully, everything that happened during her seizure and right after, she has no recollection of.
They did a few tests while she was in the ER, then admitted her to the hospital for more tests. I had no idea if we’d be there a few hours or a few days. This is when my resilient, creative, resourceful self showed up.
I realized quickly that Flo would not be driving herself back to FL anytime soon. As I was the only person there, that would need to be me. We were also supposed to check out of our hotel room that day and I, if not both of us, would need to stay another night, so I’d have to check with the hotel about those arrangements. I ended up having to pack all of our belongings and move them to another room. I had also driven a rental car to meet everyone and had to figure out what I would do with that since I was going to have to drive Flo back to FL in her own car.
What’s most interesting in all of this is that while my mind was processing all that needed to be done, figured out, and taken care of, it never once showed up and told me I was all alone, that I couldn’t handle this, that I should be nervous or scared. No, all of what’s at my core (And Yours too) is this same resilience, creativity and resourcefulness guiding you through life.
Yes, it was obviously there in this emergency situation and after, but it’s always there. Even during non-threatening times. We just don’t see it.
In that experience that started at 1 am, early on a Monday morning and didn’t fully end until Thursday morning after I’d safely brought Flo back home and made sure she had everything needed in place for her safety, those core, innate qualities showed up. I did what needed to be done without question. Was it scary? Yes. Uncomfortable? Yes.
And it showed me who I was and what I was capable of. How without anyone else I was able to accomplish so much and be there for another person. I don’t share this to boast, not at all. With reflection, this actually stunned me a little. I didn’t realize how much I could actually do until I had no other choice. That is gold right there.
You are the same. Your creativity, wisdom, and resourcefulness are within you too. Not just during times of emergency. All the time.
Think back to any time in your life when something sudden came up you weren’t expecting and had to deal with it. My hunch is that you did handle it and probably quite well.
It’s what we’re made of. Even small children who don’t know what to do in a situation know to ask someone for help. That’s their innate resourcefulness. Look at a squirrel trying to get seeds from a bird feeder. We all know how resourceful they are. You are no different.
Our minds babble at us all day long and we often can’t hear what we need to hear coming from inside. But in times of crisis, that resourcefulness comes through because it must. It is our default setting. We can see it more clearly during our emergencies because there really is no place for our minds to babble at us with info we don’t need so it doesn’t. So why in every day life does it seem we don’t have access to it as much? Because our brains babble at us and we literally analyze all those thoughts our brain offers, to death. That’s the only problem. If we didn’t continuously overthink every little thing, what we needed to hear could come through. The answers and wisdom to everything we see as life’s problems are there below all the thinking. So stop latching on to all your thinking, even for a short while, and notice what shows up.
Your resourcefulness is innate within you. All the time. 24/7. No exceptions.
If you can see this, even for a moment or so here and there, your whole would could open up.
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