Sometimes You Have To Do Something Different

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Ive been sitting with an idea for a while. It’s not new. Thomas Jefferson said it. “If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done before”. 

In other words, if you want something different from what you’ve got,  you must do something different from what you’ve been doing. Or doing the same thing will get you the same thing. 

Oh my goodness, that’s a hard one. If you are a creature of habit like me, this means change. Possibly getting out of your comfort zone. 

You simply cannot continue to do the same thing you do over and over again (no matter what it is) and expect your results to be any different from what they are. I believe they call that the definition of insanity. 

We all get into stuck places in our lives from time to time. It’s natural and normal. Staying stuck however, is not healthy. When I feel stuck that always means one thing. Something needs to change. And when I mean “something” I mean “me”. 

Stuckness is just a placeholder for it’s time to move in a different direction. Maybe something was working and now it’s not. Time to move in a different direction. Maybe something that brought you joy doesn’t anymore. Time to move in a different direction. Maybe your same workout routine isn’t getting the same results. Time to move in a different direction. Maybe a belief you’ve held about the world or other people really isn’t healthy anymore. Time to move in a different direction.

And here’s the hardest part of actually moving in a different direction. Our minds get in the way. Our mind wants to know that this different direction we take is going to bring us exactly what we want. We don’t want it to feel hard. We don’t want to struggle. We don’t want it to be uncomfortable. 

And I’m so sorry to tell you this my sweet fellow human beings, that crystal ball to see into the future to know if your different direction is going to work, doesn’t exist. 

But we have something else instead. Since change really is the only true constant, you’ve got to stop wasting your energy fighting it. It’s a losing battle. Every. Single. Time. 

This is why it’s so important to just make little changes. For one, because you don’t have to make a drastic life altering decision all in one fail swoop. You just try little things to see how it goes and course correct as needed. And two, you don’t always need to make big changes to get good results.

So what do you do? You think about the one little change in a direction you want to take and you feel into it. When I say feel into it, I mean does the thought of that shift bring more space, air, freedom, and expansiveness to your chest and shoulder region? Does it make you feel like you can take a big breath of fresh air? Then that is the little shift to try. If the thought of that little change makes your shoulders hunch, your chest tight, and gives you a feeling of prison or smallness, it’s not the way to go. 

This is one way to get the mind part out of the way. Feel into the small change. Let your body’s wisdom lead you. If it says yes, try that way. If it says no, find another option that your body says yes to.

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~ Susan

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