A few weeks ago I wrote about why many of us have a hard time making decisions. It all boils down to fear and what our minds tell us “could” happen in the future.
It struck a chord with many of you so I thought I’d chat about how to deal with a”wrong” decision when you make one.
Well, being that you ARE human, you’re going to make some dumb decisions. You’re going to mess up, make mistakes, hurt other people, maybe even royally screw some things up in your life. And often when you do that you have regrets.
“I shouldn’t have said that," you think.
“Why did I ever trust that person when my gut said no”?
“I probably would have been better off staying away from heroin”.
My hunch is if you’re reading this, you aren’t a heroin user. ;)
Let’s get one thing straight. You’re going to do something stupid and have regrets on occasion. Even Oprah does that.
It’s not that you make a bad decision, remember, you will.
It’s what you learn from that experience that matters. Where have you heard this before?
I’ve had clients that chose the wrong partner.
I’ve had clients that chose alcohol over sobriety.
I’ve had clients that chose to stay in a job even when it was killing them.
Look, you can’t change the clock and get that time back in your life to do something different, but I’m guessing (wise person that you are) that you learned some great wisdom from your choices. And with that wisdom you can move forward and make different choices.
So what do you do?
- Grieve that experience. Be mad, sad, frustrated, and regretful.
- Discover what you did learn?
- Make peace with it
- Forgive yourself and move forward with new insight
Don’t let regrets hold you back.
Embrace them and what you learned, then your life will be fuller and more meaningful because of it.
Please share if you know just the perfect person who needs this.
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