When You're in the "In-Between"

Oh my it has been a crazy week in this country. This is a time of great upheaval on the planet. I have spoken to so so many who feel this way. I am one of them. It is distressing to say the least. I am a white woman of privilege and am highly mortified by the individual who now occupies the oval office. 

I am feeling “in-between”. Here’s a passage from Charles Eisenstein’s book, The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know Is Possible. I couldn’t really put into words all that I was feeling, but wow, this spoke to me quite powerfully. 

“The old world falls apart but the new has not yet emerged. Everything that once seemed permanent and real is revealed as a kind of hallucination. You don’t know what to think, what to do; you don’t know what anything means anymore. The life trajectory you had plotted out seems absurd, and you can’t imagine another one. Everything seems uncertain. Your time frame shrinks from years to this month, this week, today, maybe even this present moment. Without the mirage of order that once seemed to protect you and filter reality, you feel naked and vulnerable, but also a kind of freedom. Possibilities that didn’t even exist in the old story lie before you, even if you have no idea how to get there. The challenge in our culture is to allow yourself to be in that space, to trust that the next story will emerge when the time in between has ended, and that you will recognize it. 

The best word I know of to describe how I am feeling now is unsettled. It’s an antsy/squirmy feeling, almost like all of the cells in my body are constantly wiggling around, looking for a place to stop and rest, but there is no place. It’s quite uncomfortable. And if you read my post from right before the new year, I mentioned the need to create and how uncomfortable I was going to have to be at times to do that. 

Maybe you are feeling similar to me. And if you are, let me tell you what I do to help myself. Maybe it will help you as well. And let me be honest here. As much as I would love to get rid of the discomfort completely, I know that won’t serve me. You see, discomfort is a sign that something does need to shift. Discomfort has a job to do. To tell you something is off, not quite right. Often I know what is off and am not sure what to do about it. And sometimes I don’t know what is off and don’t know what to do about that either. 

Step 1- I have to remind myself this won’t last forever.  It’s a period of time that I may not know the exact ending period, but I know it won’t be for all eternity.

Step 2- I have to accept (at least as much as I can) that this is what is happening right now. I don’t have to like it at all, but I’ve found that when I finally come to a place of some acceptance, that opens up some space. Space for ideas, space for actions.

Step 3- For me, when I don’t know what to do, I just do something. One of my go-to’s is cleaning or organizing. It helps me feel productive, that I am doing something. Or I’ll take a long walk outside. Mother Nature always always always helps me find some stillness inside. And then sometimes I’ll surf the internet. And though it can seem like a waste of time, occasionally I find that I’ll come across something that either helps me feel better, or focuses my attention on something helpful for whatever is going on in my life. And last, I will sometimes call a friend to chat, or even just stare out the window. 

Maybe you get a massage or read a book, or journal. The main thing is that what I do brings me back to my core peaceful self. And that’s what is most important. Because it’s from that place we create the change we want to see in ourselves and the change we want to see in the world. If our actions don’t come from that place, I think they can be more destructive than helpful. 

And it seems that there is quite a bit of destruction happening right now, whether it be actual reality, or perceived reality, whose to say.

We’re in the same physical space, and in a different time. We are in-between. That goes for the planet, this country, and maybe your own personal life as well. 

It’s in this in-between time that, “possibilities that didn’t even exist in the old story lie before you”. 

We must be open to the possibilities. The heart-filled, soulful ones. That is how we will all move through the in-between.

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~Susan

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