Your Head Versus Your Heart

head and heart by Elizabeth Gilbert.jpg

If you’ve been a part of my newsletter for a while you know that I’m a big fan of the author Elizabeth Gilbert. She’s the one who wrote the epic book, Eat, Pray, Love and most recently, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear.

When I work with clients there is always a tangle between their head and their hearts. Their hearts say I would LOVE to do A. Then their mind pipes in with, you can’t do that. You’ll never be accepted. That’s a stupid idea.

I try to guide them into the heart space where the magic can happen for their lives. Our minds need to be in service of our hearts, not the other way around.

Recently on Elizabeth Gilbert’s Facebook page she shared this below. It resonated with me, and as a fellow “personal growth” junkie that I know you are, I thought it would resonate with you too.

Dear Ones:

I woke up this morning with my mind in a tangle, and my emotions in a storm.

I lay there in bed for a long time, wrestling with my thoughts and fighting hard against my feelings. But I was losing ground. No matter how hard I used my powerful THOUGHTS to try to extract myself from my other powerful THOUGHTS, it didn’t work. My THOUGHTS just got darker, and then my THOUGHTS about my THOUGHTS got more panicked and distressed, until new and worse THOUGHTS arose, and now we have a tornado, folks.

(This has happened to me before. But only once or twice.)

My mind thought: I NEED MORE THOUGHTS, TO FIX THESE THOUGHTS! THINK HARDER! FIND A SOLUTION TO EVERYTHING! STOP THIS! GET CONTROL! DIFFERENT THOUGHTS! BETTER THOUGHTS!

Then I remembered: I cannot use my mind to help my mind, when my mind is in distress.

At these moments, only the heart can help.

So.

My heart stepped in quietly and said to my tired mind: “Come and rest your tangle here with me. I’ll take care of you, just the way you are.”

My mind said, “But, but, BUT —“

My heart said, “Shhh. I’ve got you.”

Then we all rested together — me, mind, heart.

No solving happened this morning.

Solving doesn’t always have to happen. Sometimes it can’t. Sometimes all you need is a safe place to rest.

HEART.

Then I got up and drew this picture, for the next time I forget.

Onward.

LG

Lovely isn’t it? Where in your life can you just let your mind rest and allow your heart to hold it? 

Please share if you know just the perfect person who needs this.

~ Susan

Helping You Get What You Want Out Of Life

Image by Elizabeth Gilbert from her Facebook Page.