Taking Care

You have a Natural Side to Nurture

We all have a natural side that yearns to be nurtured. But what the heck does that mean? When I think of you natural side, I think of the parts of you that flow through life with ease. Take my good friend, Lola for example, (not her real name). Lola loves to solve problems. Loves it! Give her a problem to solve and she is in her zone. Time falls away or flies by, she’s having a ball, and she has great energy. It comes naturally to her. Which is why she has chosen a career where she gets to solve problems. She gets great satisfaction from doing so. She feels filled up and all is well in her world. a woman painting

Now take my friend Lydia (not her real name either), who is an accountant. She’s pretty good at it but time doesn’t fly by when she’s doing it, she feels drained, and her excitement level about it is, pretty meh. She is not nurturing her natural side. She is fighting against it. Continuing to do what’s not working, is not going to get you to what will work.

These may be career examples but you can notice this is any area of your life.

Wondering what’s really natural for you?

Think of it this way. What are the things you do you could do all day that are fun, time stands still, and you have a lot of energy doing it?

What people are you with?

What environments are you in?

What conversations are you having?

Are you alone?

Are you outside?

What are you doing?

This is how you find out what’s natural for you. There’s an ease to it. A flow. A rhythm. It doesn’t mean it isn’t challenging, but overall it just feels right, like you’ve come home. You think, yes. This.

Why is it important to nurture this? Because this is how you get filled up, how you get energy, feel good, enjoy life. It’s that simple. Spend all of your time doing what doesn’t feel natural and life isn’t going to feel so good. Spend at least some of your time nurturing the good stuff… you (plug in how you would feel here).

Then what do you do once you’ve found what feels natural? You make damn sure it’s part of your life. If it isn’t, you schedule it on your calendar and you make it happen. You get rid of things on your calendar that don’t nurture your natural side as much as you possibly can.

I know it might be hard, I know you might be afraid. But you know what, it’s your life. You are the only one who can live it and choose what you do with your time.

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Taking Charge in 2015

There is just something about a brand new year. I love pondering the previous year to discover what I enjoyed about my life. What worked well. And what didn’t work at all. This past year was one of the hardest I’ve had in recent memory. It was filled with tremendous loss. And after intentionally feeling the losses fully, I was able to find the gain. What did I learn about life, about myself, because of what I’ve experienced? How will I be different because of it all?

What I do know is that I do feel different. My energy is different.

A very interesting thing happened to me in early December, while I was vacuuming, of all things. I got a very clear message that I needed to “Take Charge” of my life. Well, of course I’m in charge of my life, I thought. Who else could possibly be? But it was really strong. The universe let me know it was time to take charge of my life in a very different way. plant in hand

After sitting with what that revelation for a while it became more obvious in what areas of my life I was definitely not in charge, and where I needed to step up.

My Newsletter is called the Nurture Your Life Newsletter. If you don’t get it and want to, you can grab it on the left side of the page.

How ironic that I’ve discovered I haven’t been nurturing my own life as well as I could have been. Now that I’m taking charge of nurturing my life differently this year, I thought there would be no better way than to do it together. Maybe you haven’t been nurturing your own life as well as you you’d like. I can tell you, it’s easier when you do it with someone.

The definition of nurture is to care for or encourage the growth or development of.

Aaaaaaahhhhhh... Just the sound of the word nurture makes me feel cared for and wrapped up in a warm fuzzy blanket.

What does the word nurture mean to you? Not what you do for others, but what do you do to nurture you?

Take a few minutes to think about what your life would look like if you nurtured it. Really nurtured it.

What would you do for yourself that you aren’t doing now?

What would you stop doing that is leaving you empty and depleted?

I invite you grab a piece of paper and pen, and draw a line down the middle of the paper vertically making two columns. In the first column, make a list of what you do consistently that feels nurturing to you. Ways you feel cared for and encouraged by you.

In the other column, write down ways you aren’t nurturing yourself. Things you do that after you’re done make you feel just blah.

I’m not even going to give you examples because there is no right or wrong way to answer these questions. Only your true self knows what real nurturing feels like to you. Your list could look very similar to someone else’s list, or completely opposite. That’s the beauty in having so many similarities and differences from others.

For the next week, I’d love for you to notice how often you actually do something for yourself that feels really nurturing. As well as how often you do things that end up making you feel crappy.

Over the next several weeks I’ll take one area of life and talk about ways in which you can nurture that part. As well as ways to tackle what keeps us from doing what we need to do for ourselves.

Maybe just a few areas need tweaking for you, maybe you need a full on transformation.

What I do know (after a ton of experience) is that changing something in your life takes time, deep focus, slowing down, and repetition.

As the saying goes, what you focus on grows. If you spend time nurturing yourself, you’ll feel cared for. If you don’t, you won’t. It’s that simple.

For me, part of nurturing my life means nurturing you in some way by sharing all I’ve learned in my life so far with you. And knowing that when you email me, comment on the blog, or I have the privilege of working with you as a coaching client, you nurture me. Because I learn so much from you as well. Our connection helps me grow. I hope it does the same for you.

Join me in Taking Charge of Nurturing Your Life in a whole new way in 2015!

Until next week…

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Taking Care of Yourself

We hear over and over how important it is to take care of ourselves. That by doing so, we are healthier, happier, and have more to give others. But I wonder how often we really do it. woman-takes-care-of-herself A caring newsletter reader sent me a thoughtful email after she saw my post last week, the love letter I wrote to my dog child Kona after saying goodbye. In it she said some important things. I want to share them with you.

“I know you know this, but it's so important to take care of yourself and get the rest you need. The exhaustion is part of the grief. When you are hurting, reeling from a devastating loss, you must care for yourself the way you would a dear friend. Treat yourself to what you would offer that friend. Tuck yourself in with tea or chicken soup, take hot baths, play gentle music, and pamper yourself as much as you can. We so often fall down on self-care, but it is so critical to our survival, healing, and growth. I just wanted to remind you about that (even though I know you do know). Sometimes we know these things, but of all the people in our lives, it is often ourselves we are the most neglectful of.”

She hit the nail on the head. Especially for me this week as I have been downright exhausted from not only caring for my dog before he died, but in the last 2 weeks as well from grieving so much. While I did know how important taking care of myself was, what I didn’t know was how tired and lethargic I would feel after this devastating loss. That was a huge surprise to me.

I share this because you may be going through a stressful loss right now. Please know that my heart is with you if you are. If you aren’t going through loss at this moment, I am so glad. But it does happen to all of us.

It’s the reminder to take care of yourself. In whatever way feels right and best for you. It really is the kindest thing you can do.

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