“Tis’ the season”, as they say. You’re baking cookies, the lights are up, the carols are on the radio or your iPod, and all is merry and bright. Many of us are running around buying our last gifts, trying to get them mailed in time so they’ll make it to St. Nick’s sleigh before he takes off Christmas Eve. There’s an upbeat feel to it all. Except… not everyone is merry.
After the devastation at Sandy Hook Elementary school last week, we are all reminded that life can end in an instant.
I for one, have a really hard time with violence in general. And I cannot even begin to wrap my brain around what happened to the children, teachers, and community on that day. Though the initial devastation is over, there is so much more to come for all of those involved. I know the people of this country will be looking at how to prevent this from happening again, as well as taking action. It’s incredibly important.
What I want to focus on today, however, is how we support those that are feeling less merry.
I am already wondering if the families of this tragedy will ever be able to feel merry again during this time of year. From the depths of my heart, I do hope so. Someday.
Many people have lost loved ones, their jobs, have a hard time with the decreased light this time of year, are in a transition point in their life due to personal choice or imposed changes. We all like to feel supported throughout the year but the month of December can be the hardest.
Maybe you know someone going through a rough patch right now. I bet you know at least one person. What can you do for them this week? Could you pick up the phone and say hi, text them a ‘thinking about you’ message, take them to lunch or a movie, spend some time just listening? Could you hold some space and just be with them and find out what’s going on?
In our fast-paced, crazy-busy world, one of the things we wish we all had more of was time.
But really, it’s us taking the time to do what’s important.
And what’s more important than being with someone who just wants to spend some time with you, to have you listen to them, and not judge them or give them advice. Just be there. Isn’t that something we all appreciate? Someone to listen to us, be there, and not judge?
For my money, that’s what this season is all about. Being present with and for people. Gifts are nice, but they’re icing on the cake really.
So be merry if you’re feeling that way. Reach out and be there for someone who isn’t feeling so hot.
And if you’re the one who isn’t feeling so grand, I invite you to reach out. Unless you do, people may not know what you’re going through. It’s okay to feel the way you feel. I can almost guarantee that you’ll find someone whose willing to listen, be there, and not judge. There are a huge number of amazing, loving, caring people in this world.
And if you can’t find one, feel free to give me a call.
Wishing you Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas, an awesome Kwanzaa, or whatever tradition you celebrate this season!
Your Turn: Are you merry and reaching out to others? Are you not merry and reaching out to others? Leave a comment below, or email me, firstname.lastname@example.org
I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.
As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.
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