To hear the audio version of this blog, click here. Isn’t one of the things we as humans think about is how we just want to be loved by others?
We just want to be accepted for who we are and not judged. Then the opportunity comes up for exactly that to happen and we don’t allow it or push it away.
Our culture prides itself on independence, being strong, and doing it all on your own. That’s all well and good… to an extent.
Until something happens and you can’t do everything on your own.
Here’s a recent example from my life. I woke up this past Christmas to a stomach bug. It was 7am, I opened my eyes and bam, got up to head to the bathroom to vomit. Just what I had planned for Christmas. NOT. I must not have been very clear when I told Santa what I wanted this year.
I spent most of the day either in bed or on the couch, between visits to the smallest room of our house. I felt weak and tired. Expelling all of your fluids takes a lot out of you.
My fiancé was right there at every turn asking what I wanted or needed, willing to be of help in any way.
My first thought was that I felt bad for feeling needy, for asking for tea, or some broth.
I felt bad for being sick. Even though I felt like crap, I knew I could summon up some energy physically do those things for myself even if it would have been hard.
It took me a little while but I finally realized he was there to love me. To help me during a time when I really needed him.
To remind me we don’t go through life completely on our own, all the time, and we don’t have to do everything for ourselves.
I relaxed into just being sick, comforted by the fact that I didn’t need to do anything other than ‘be’ sick. I couldn’t not be sick anyway. I decided that was okay.
We are all surrounded by people willing and ready to care for us and love us in a myriad of ways.
Do you notice when others offer to help you with something and you say no, thinking it’s a hardship on them?
Think about when someone you care about really needs help. You know you don’t mind giving it. We’re human. We like to give and giving helps us feel like we’re needed. And we really like to feel like we’re needed. What a beautiful gift where you are being loved (in whatever form that takes), and the giver gets to give and feel needed. Does it get any more win-win than that?
So the next time someone offers to help, whether it be in a big or small way, allow their love in. Allow them to care for and love you. It’s the strongest bond you can form with another human. You’ll both be so glad you did.
Your Turn: What have you done recently to allow another to love you? Leave a comment below, or email me, firstname.lastname@example.org
I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.
As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.
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