Every Monday I get an email in my inbox with Your Weekly Powerful Question. It’s a question to ponder for your life. I LOVE to ponder. A few weeks back the question that came asked, “Would I be alright being ‘average’ for the rest of my life?”
I sat with that one. I’m still sitting with it.
You see, I’ve always wanted to be more than average “at something”. I wanted to be awesome at “something”. Known for “something”. For me it would mean my life mattered. People were helped by my contribution. But so far, I’m not there.
My step-dad knew at the age of 7 he wanted to be a doctor. Everything in his life was tailored towards that. All of his studies in high school, college, then of course medical school. And he was damn good at it.
I’ve always wanted something like that for me. If I could be known for something, be really good at it, then I wouldn’t be average. Because average is, you know, just so average.
No sparkle. No glitter. Kinda lame.
As I really pondered the question I realized how much expectation was around it. From myself, from (perceived) others. In our culture, it’s the people who are experts at something, do great things, or do something no one else has ever done, that are revered, really put on a pedestal. Not average.
How would I even know if I was average or not? Who is the decider of that question?
Being more than average feels like a push, a strain, something to strive and work for. Which if you’re really motivated and full of passion and desire, that’s awesome. But if you aren’t, it feels icky. It’s that feeling that comes with the thought that you aren’t doing enough. And of course that totally translates into the thought, you aren’t enough.
So what I’ve come to in answering this question is that I would be more than alright being average for the rest of my life.
There is so much I love about my life.
I’m grateful for what I have.
And I’m more than enough.
Here's the irony. I work part-time at REI and just received the employee-of-the-month award. If that isn't a universal wink about my average-ness I don't know what is.
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