Emotions

Finding Gratitude

Gratitude is always a choice you make. Day by day. Hour by hour. Minute by minute. Second by second. Here is what I am grateful for today. I’ll start with the incredibly soft and comfortable bed I woke up in. For the sun that is shining outside my window. For the fun job I have working with great people, and serving awesome customers. For the husband who is always so kind and caring. For my healthy body that speaks to me and lets me know what it needs to function at its best. For the birds at my bird feeder so happy to be enjoying the free food. For the time I have to sit at the beautiful table my husband created, looking out on the sturdy Ponderosa Pine trees. For the time to sit here and write this for you. And that’s all in just the first couple of hours of my day. Wow- I have got it goin’ on!

Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend OR

I’m a pretty practical person by nature, and can get bogged down in the details of life, but I’m also really good at looking at the bigger picture too. That bigger picture shows me all is well in my world not only because of the choices I’ve made but because of the energy I put out into the world on a daily basis. When my emotional being is filled with negativity (always because of whatever negative I’m thinking), I get ick back from the world in the form of other people’s energy and experiences that aren’t so great. When my emotional being is filled with more thoughts that feel better, I get amazing experiences and happy energy from other people coming my way.

It’s one of the universal laws of energy. The Law of Attraction. Whatever energy you vibrate out, you’re going to get that same energy vibrating back in. There is no other possibility.

When I focus on what is going well in my life and hold the expectation of things continuing to go well AND get better, my days are seamless days filled with contentment. This has been a practice for me, and it continues to grow.

Could you spend the next seven days slowing down and taking the time to really appreciate and be grateful for what is going well and right in your life? I can’t promise bliss forever, but I can promise a little contentment in the moment.

And what is life, but a string, of little moments.

Have a gratitude-filled week!

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~ Susan

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Worrying is Optional

I always find it so fascinating the memories we have from childhood that occasionally pop up like they just happened the other day. Back when I was around 7, my parents and I, as well as our next-door neighbors, a fun older couple (50’s is older when your 7), planned to go out on our boat into the Gulf of Mexico for a few hours one weekend afternoon. I loved to go out on the boat to feel the warm sun and watch the dolphins play in the wake.

We got everything loaded up, pulled into the marina with the boat launch, put the boat in the water, and got in all ready to go for our adventure. Except the starter did not turn the engine over. The battery was dead.

My parents took off to go find another battery and I remember talking to my neighbors being concerned about how long my parents were gone, what had happened to the boat, how we weren’t going to get out and enjoy the water, blah, blah, blah.

The wife said to me, wow, you are a worry wart. That really struck me at the tender age of 7. Me, a worry wart? No way! I mean, who worries at 7?

Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

I guess I did.

Of course, my parents came back with the new battery; we hopped in the boat, and continued with our day on the water.

As a child, I truly had nothing to be worried about, but as adults, holy moly, do we have things to worry about. Mortgages, world hunger, terrorism, getting to work on time, saving enough money for retirement, the list is endless.

Yes, those are all parts of modern life right now, but you know what? Worrying about any of it is completely optional. I would even say it is completely unneeded, unwanted, and unhealthy.

The feeling of worry comes from a thought that says something along the lines of I’m not safe, the future is scary, or something bad is going to happen. Worry is future-oriented. It takes us completely out of the present. We don’t worry about what is happening right this moment. When something is happening right now we are busy dealing with that, not worrying about it.

Worry puts you in an internal state of stress. You do that to yourself. You can take worry off the table anytime you’d like.

How?

You plan for the future, not worry about it. You make a plan to pay your mortgage, you plan to deal with terrorism, you plan to get to work on time, you plan to save money for retirement.

Our media is full of fear-based stories. They perpetuate worry.

How interesting that I don’t listen or pay much attention to the media and I live a peaceful life with very little worry.

Worry is optional and your choice.

So tell me, is there something you can drop your worry about today?

Give it a try and make a plan instead.

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Are You Running from Your Emotions?

Why do you run from certain emotions as fast and as far as you can? Because you’ve decided they don’t feel good. And if an emotion doesn’t feel good it can’t possible be good for you to feel. Right? Well, no!

I have to tell you, it has taken me a loooooong time to really understand this intellectually and believe it physically. But I totally get it now.

Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

The emotions you have, like, anger, sadness, fear, joy, guilt, are there because of the thoughts you think about some circumstance, another person, or yourself. Without those thoughts you would not have an emotion. Your thoughts create your emotions. Period.

You can change your thoughts on purpose if you want to feel something different, but I’m not going to focus on that today.

Today I’m focusing on actually physically feeling those emotion states, those words you have in your mind for emotions.

Your emotions can be felt physically, as sensations or vibrations in the body.

Let’s work through an example.

Think about the last time you were angry. What was happening in your life? Now, I want you to close your eyes and hold that situation in your minds eye. Then I want you to do a body scan. From the tips of your toes to the top of your head.

I want you to notice and be curious about the physical sensations that show up in your body that go with this emotion of anger.

Where do you feel it? How does it show up? Does it have a size? A color? Does it hum or buzz? Does it tighten areas or loosen them up?

What I want you to understand and practice is that when you feel your emotions physically you get to practice living with them and through them. When you fully give yourself to sitting with the vibration of feeling them then you know that even though sometimes they aren’t comfortable, they will pass. You’re afraid of them because you think you will feel horrible and stay feeling icky all day, or maybe forever. But that isn’t what happens.

Your power lies in feeling those emotions.

When you are willing to feel your emotions physically (All of them), then you know you can do it. There is nothing to be afraid of because if you can feel happiness, anger, fear, panic, and know that you can live through them, then they have no power over you. When you feel them with curiosity and without judging them for being there, they pass through and move on. It’s just a form of energy that wants to move.

When you know you can survive your emotions, then you know you can survive anything. Then you have nothing to run from or hide from.

And as one of my favorite teachers in the coaching world says, you will be willing to show up in the world in a way that most people are unwilling to do which means you probably have a life that most people are unwilling to create for themselves. And that my friends are sage advice.

So tell me, what one emotion do you hate feeling or are afraid to feel? And are you willing to feel it today? Set a timer for 90 seconds and go. When the timer goes off, let it go and move forward with your day. You absolutely have that control.

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