Happiness

Letting in the Fun

This past weekend my husband and I went to a blind wine tasting party. Each couple brought a bottle of zinfandel wine and they were placed in paper bags with numbers so no one knew what exact brand of wine it was. We were given index cards in order to write down comments on each numbered wine, then we had to rank them in order of what we liked best down to the worst as we tasted. I can’t tell you how much fun it was to chat with each person as we were tasting wine and writing our comments. The look on people’s faces when they didn’t like a wine was priceless. The scrunched up noses with their tongue sticking out of their mouths. And then by comparison, the opposite look of someone who liked the wine with a raised eyebrow and a smile. Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

We were not in a group of wine connoisseurs which was a good thing because the adjectives we used to describe our wines were not what you might read on wine websites. For example, “Recognized for its intensity of color and good structure of tannin and acid, it presents nuances of gooseberries and a smoky, peppery bouquet and is often added to a blend to liven it up. Smooth on the palate this wine ages well and mellows with time.” What??? No, our descriptive words including things like, “ick”, “meh”, “yum,” and “sweet”, “hot”, “dry”, or “I don’t think so.”

My husband is not a wine drinker at all. It was hilarious to look at what he had written on his card. By each number his descriptors included wine, wine, wine, wine, on down the list. There was one wine he marked, “not as bad”. OMG- I thought I would pee in my pants I was laughing so hard at everyone’s experience and description.

The night hit its crescendo when the revealing of the wines took place. The host tallied up scores and let us know what the collective group thought the worst wine was and the best wine. We all stood there secretly hoping “our” wine, the one we brought, wasn’t on the bottom. The wine my husband and I brought came in second place. It cost $9.99. I was shocked. I hadn’t even rated it near the top.

Often I find I take some things WAY too seriously. Does this ever happen to you? We live in a world where serious things are happening, yes, but there’s no reason we (read me) have to make it all important. In the Buddhist sense, everything is important and nothing is important. You get to choose.

Going to work and paying bills may be important, but it’s no more important than getting out, having fun, doing something silly, laughing, and enjoying time with old friends and new.

So what’s on your fun list coming up soon?

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~ Susan

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The Secret to Slowing Down

I’ve never been able to keep up with the pace of our world, our society. Never. But believe you me, I sure tired.

Really hard.

Several years back I was on a walk through the woods with my dogs and it hit me. Everyone is in such a hurry all the time. And I HATE being in a hurry.

Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

I don’t drive fast, I don’t make quick decisions, I don’t run fast, I don’t try to do many things fast. When I do I make mistakes.

If you’re in an emergency in the hospital and need attention fast, then yes, a faster pace is required. Or if you are planning to be the fastest woman in the hundred yard dash, then yes, a really fast pace is required. But for most things in life, not so much.

I believe many of the world problems we have today come from trying to rush things.

So I stopped “trying” to keep up. And do you know what happened?

My life felt better. I didn’t feel so stressed. Not everything got done, but what mattered did. Somewhere along the way I realized my to-do list would always be there. Even when you catch up one day, a new one will start again soon enough.

So what’s the secret to slowing down? It’s a simple decision.

The decision to live your life at a pace that feels natural and works for you. A pace that matches your energy level. A pace that works for what’s important to you.

Slowing down is a choice.

One you make every day.

The world will tell you you can’t survive.

I’m proof you can. And it feels so much better.

Are you living at your own natural pace? Leave a comment on the blog below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com.

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What's Your Bottom Line?

I’m super curious as to what’s going through your mind right now as to what you think I really mean. And no, it has nothing to do with financials, butt size, or hem length.

Your bottom line has everything to do with what’s important to you in your life, and if you are living from that place.

Here’s what I know.

When I think about my life, what I truly want most (my bottom line) is to fill as much of my time with what I enjoy and love.

When I focus my attention on my bottom line, my life feels awesome. I feel happier. I feel fulfilled. Feeling fulfilled is one of the number one feelings I love to feel.

That’s why come summer when I walk into a greenhouse filled with flowers (bursting with the most amazing colors) I literally drool, and melt, and want to bring in a hammock and lay there (right in the middle between the geraniums and the Gerbera daisies). If you think I’m kidding, I’m not. That’s how happy walking around a greenhouse makes me feel. I feel so calm and full of life at the same time. Honestly, that explanation doesn’t even begin to describe how I truly feel. I just don’t have the words. Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

Then I get to buy some of those beauties, bring them home, and enjoy them all summer long. Aaaaahhh… bliss I tell you.

I know it’s a super simple example. Doing work I love and spending time with people I love is important too, but it’s all those things that bring you to your own bottom line that are important.

If I asked what’s your bottom line, could you tell me?

If you want to live your life in a way that fills you up, knowing your bottom line is pretty damn important.

The best bottom lines are clear and simple. They feel easy and right. No fuss or muss.

When you live from that place, your life feels amazing.

So I’ll ask again.

What’s your bottom line?

If you don’t know, maybe now is the perfect time to find out.

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Do you know what makes you really happy?

I used to think I wanted to feel happy all the time. Think about it. Doesn’t the idea of feeling super happy and excited about your life 24/7 sound kind of amazing? I had this notion that if I felt incredibly happy I would feel motivated and inspired. I had visions of getting so much done because I would be “in the mood” to do it all.

Having grown up in Florida I often visited Disney World. Talk about being in a place where happy reigns. There is just something about walking through the gates into the Magic Kingdom, cue the Disney music, the blue birds singing in the manicured trees, the brightly colored, perfectly spaced flowers, the amazing clear sky, Mickey waving off in the distance…

Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

I love Disney. I do. But I couldn’t go every day. I found it’s actually tiring to feel that happy all the time and to go-go-go. Enjoy this! Have fun here!

Help- where do I get off?

Going to Disney is fun. Having fun makes me happy.

But true happiness is an inside job. I’m sure you’ve heard it before. Yes, people, things, and experiences outside of us can bring us joy for sure.

Real happiness, however, comes from your approach to life.

Knowing deep down what makes your soul happy and doing that.

It could be the work you do in the world.

It could be your attitude when you have to stand in a long line at the store.

It could be the time you spend with your friends or significant other.

Or the walks you take with your dog.

Maybe the time you spend playing with your cat.

It could be the way you handle a person who you think has been rude to you.

It could even include knowing you need to get away and sit by the river to let nature fill you up again.

Do you know what makes you really happy?

If you do, go do it and be it.

If not, go find out.

Your happiness is waiting.

Are you happy? Leave a comment on the blog below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com.

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