Rest

Create One Hour (or more) for YOU

I’ve talked with numerous people this week who are tired, frazzled, and just plain pooped. And guess what? I’m one of them. I had more on my plate than usual this week and I can feel it. My body feels heavy and overall just worn out. I had plans for the weekend that I’ve already cancelled because I just need some time, space, and quiet to relax, rest, and recharge. Alone.

Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

I know exactly what this will do for me. After slowing down and sleeping mightily, my batteries will be recharged and invigorated. Ready for what’s next. But only after I honor what my body is telling me it needs. If I don’t listen and do something about it, my body will only yell back at me more.

What do you need this weekend? Really need?

Now go honor the bright shiny soul that you are and give it to yourself.

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~ Susan

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A deeper kind of rest

Hi there! How ARE you?

How has July been? Did you make and changes?

I’ve spent the last month learning what it’s like to rest on a different level. One of Martha Beck’s mantras is to rest until you play and play until you rest. She means that literally. Life shouldn’t be hard and you’re either playing or resting.

Right now I’m resting…

Deeply. Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

I have been goal driven my entire life. There was always something to be working on, striving for, an achievement to attain.

Always.

That’s how your life has meaning and you leave your mark on the world, right? You set goals, roll up your sleeves, get to work, until you achieve that damn goal.

Well…

It wasn’t until I stopped writing my weekly newsletter and stopped leading my Life Coaching Meetup group, focused only on going to my job at REI and Physical Therapy (to help me re-align and balance my body), did I start to get a feel for what deeply resting might really mean.

At first my mind didn’t like it so much. You “have” to be working on something. You “have” to be doing something more, it said.

I gently reminded it that no, actually, I didn’t.

As I type this, I’m sitting watching a hummingbird out my window taking a very looooooooooong drink of sugar water at the feeder. THAT is what I am meant to be doing right now. Enjoying what is right in front of me. Not striving toward anything.

I think I’m starting to get the hang of this less is more idea on a whole new level. I’ve always believed it intellectually but until I actually allowed myself to be in that space, I didn’t really feel the ease and beauty of what it’s like to not be working towards something all the time.

Okay, you could say my goal is to align my body with Physical Therapy right now, and you’d be right. I am diligently going twice a week, stretching and strengthening something almost daily, but (but) I haven’t put a time limit on my recovery. It may be next week, or it might take 2 more months. I don’t know.

Although I’d love to have everything feeling fabulous today (oh wow that would be amazing), Ive settled into this deep kind of place where the universe is helping me work things out in the perfect time. Even if it isn’t my idea of perfect time. If you think I don’t sometimes get frustrated when things feel better then worse again, you’d be wrong, but my overall sense is one of peace and acceptance of where I am on this journey.

I spoke with another mentor the other day and talked with her about my lack of wanting to do and how wonderful it felt. She said she’s never heard me sound so relaxed. My voice exuded peace and calm. That was nice to hear and a confirmation that I am in the right place and space right now.

So what does that mean for you?

Well, I’ve decided to take another month off from writing this newsletter. I’ve promised myself to journal more about what’s going on with me in my life. To see what shows up.

Of course I’d like to leave you with something to ponder for the month of August.

What does deep rest look like for you? Do you even have any idea?

Do you get enough of it in? If not, what can you get rid of or do differently to incorporate it?

I cannot tell you how much I have enjoyed not doing. It’s like I’ve come home to myself even more. It’s one of the best gifts I have ever given myself. Permission to just be. I wish I could give you a formula for how I’m doing this but I can’t. I don’t have one (other than the giving myself permission formula).

It was more of a decision I made. My true self made. My soul made. And my heart and soul told my brain what was most important right now and there was nothing to fear.

I can tell you I’m probably overall more relaxed than I can ever remember. And in this crazy world of ours, I see that as amazing.

The world will completely continue without your input and effort I promise. It’s in the being that we do. You just have to be willing to be and allow that to be enough.

See you in September.

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~ Susan

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Give Yourself a Rest

I was on a flight a couple of years back and the man next to me was obviously doing work on his laptop. It looked important. Yes, I was sneaking glances over at him while he was typing in numbers from a piece of paper on to a spreadsheet on his computer. It was interesting to watch him because he kept falling asleep. He would be happily typing along and within a few seconds, his fingers would stop tapping and drift across the keyboard. Then I’d look at his face and notice his eyelids slowly droop down. Next came the chin drop to the chest, followed by the lean of his head to one side.

Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

He’d remain that way a few moments, then jerk back awake shocked he’d been asleep in the first place. He’d resume typing, then guess what? He’d start the same process all over again.

I silently wondered how accurately he was working. Would he find mistakes later? Have to redo some things?

I almost, almost leaned over and tell him about the research out there that shows when we try to work on things when we’re that tired, we make a ton of mistakes, are less efficient, and then are still tired when it’s over.

I wanted to suggest he take a cat nap. It was pretty obvious that’s what his body was telling him. Heck, he could even set an alarm to wake up and continue working before the flight was over.

We all get tired like that sometimes. Our body will tell us when we’ve had enough. Maybe we’re sleepy and have fuzzy brain, maybe we’re irritable, maybe we can’t remember our own name. Our bodies are full of important information if we’ll just pay attention then actually DO something helpful with that info.

Why not give yourself a rest? It might not be a nap that’s needed per say. It could be though. Or a walk, or switching to a new activity to give your brain a break from what you’re working on. It could even be for a few days.

Maybe, just maybe, giving yourself a rest might actually enable you to get things done more efficiently, with less or no mistakes, AND you’d feel better.

Can you guess where my vote goes?

Give yourself a rest. I promise, if you are a woman, you are already doing more than enough.

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