How ARE you?
How has July been? Did you make and changes?
I’ve spent the last month learning what it’s like to rest on a different level. One of Martha Beck’s mantras is to rest until you play and play until you rest. She means that literally. Life shouldn’t be hard and you’re either playing or resting.
Right now I’m resting…
I have been goal driven my entire life. There was always something to be working on, striving for, an achievement to attain.
That’s how your life has meaning and you leave your mark on the world, right? You set goals, roll up your sleeves, get to work, until you achieve that damn goal.
It wasn’t until I stopped writing my weekly newsletter and stopped leading my Life Coaching Meetup group, focused only on going to my job at REI and Physical Therapy (to help me re-align and balance my body), did I start to get a feel for what deeply resting might really mean.
At first my mind didn’t like it so much. You “have” to be working on something. You “have” to be doing something more, it said.
I gently reminded it that no, actually, I didn’t.
As I type this, I’m sitting watching a hummingbird out my window taking a very looooooooooong drink of sugar water at the feeder. THAT is what I am meant to be doing right now. Enjoying what is right in front of me. Not striving toward anything.
I think I’m starting to get the hang of this less is more idea on a whole new level. I’ve always believed it intellectually but until I actually allowed myself to be in that space, I didn’t really feel the ease and beauty of what it’s like to not be working towards something all the time.
Okay, you could say my goal is to align my body with Physical Therapy right now, and you’d be right. I am diligently going twice a week, stretching and strengthening something almost daily, but (but) I haven’t put a time limit on my recovery. It may be next week, or it might take 2 more months. I don’t know.
Although I’d love to have everything feeling fabulous today (oh wow that would be amazing), Ive settled into this deep kind of place where the universe is helping me work things out in the perfect time. Even if it isn’t my idea of perfect time. If you think I don’t sometimes get frustrated when things feel better then worse again, you’d be wrong, but my overall sense is one of peace and acceptance of where I am on this journey.
I spoke with another mentor the other day and talked with her about my lack of wanting to do and how wonderful it felt. She said she’s never heard me sound so relaxed. My voice exuded peace and calm. That was nice to hear and a confirmation that I am in the right place and space right now.
So what does that mean for you?
Well, I’ve decided to take another month off from writing this newsletter.
I’ve promised myself to journal more about what’s going on with me in my life. To see what shows up.
Of course I’d like to leave you with something to ponder for the month of August.
What does deep rest look like for you? Do you even have any idea?
Do you get enough of it in? If not, what can you get rid of or do differently to incorporate it?
I cannot tell you how much I have enjoyed not doing. It’s like I’ve come home to myself even more.
It’s one of the best gifts I have ever given myself. Permission to just be.
I wish I could give you a formula for how I’m doing this but I can’t. I don’t have one (other than the giving myself permission formula).
It was more of a decision I made. My true self made. My soul made. And my heart and soul told my brain what was most important right now and there was nothing to fear.
I can tell you I’m probably overall more relaxed than I can ever remember. And in this crazy world of ours, I see that as amazing.
The world will completely continue without your input and effort I promise.
It’s in the being that we do. You just have to be willing to be and allow that to be enough.
See you in September.
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