Stand Up for Yourself

Every Woman Should...

I lost my mother to colon cancer almost 9 years ago. I think of her every now and then at various times for various reasons. I thought of her this morning. When I was in college over 20 years ago, she gave me two framed posters that hung on my dorm room wall. They aren’t hung anywhere in my house today but I love and appreciate them so much I keep them and pull them out to read them every now and then.

I pulled one out today and I’m going to share it with you. Maybe you (or someone else) needs this.

Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

Every Woman Should…

know how to use a stick shift; a plunger; understand the difference between don’t tell a soul and don’t tell a soul I mean it; know her mind; change it; have protection handy; but not too handy; use special china; and special underwear for no special reason; over commit; come through; refuse to do it again; do it again; be able to discuss first and ten; have better things to do; set boundaries; go camping; grow something; dance crazy all alone; stare at a phone; get dressed in five minutes; be a princess; get over it; believe in the perfect man; get over it; read; walk; flirt; shock; listen; sing; thank God; be single and like it; a lot; raise a child; or not; see a wrinkle and be reminded of her youth; not her age.

Thanks Mom! You taught me so much.

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~ Susan

Get Outside and Nurture Your Life

Give Yourself Permission To...

I was hiking with a friend a few months ago and she was upset about something going on in her life. She spent a long time talking about it and then she looked up at me and said, “I’m sorry I’m taking your time to vent about what’s happening.” I asked her if she had given herself the permission to vent when she was alone. She said no, she hadn’t. I asked why not? She said she didn’t want to dwell on it. I got what she was saying. In her mind, if she spent time venting about what wash happening in her life, whether it be with herself, or others, she was just going to stay stuck in that negativity and never move forward. And yep, that can happen. Staying mired in what’s going on can suck you down further and further into the ick and that’s where you stay. And that isn’t healthy.

But what she wasn’t doing was actually giving herself the time and space, the permission, to conscientiously work through what was happening. To have her emotions and really feel them. To talk about with trusted, supportive others, what was really going on under the surface. The second I invited her to give herself permission to feel it all, she sighed a deep long breath.

permission granted

It’s amazing what we don’t and won’t give ourselves permission to be, think, feel, or do. It’s almost like we’re waiting to open up the newspaper to a headline that says, Good Morning (Insert your name here)! Today you have permission to… (insert your thing here). Like permission has to come from outside of ourselves if it’s truly allowed.

For many of us, this stems from long held family beliefs about permission, what was acceptable, and what wasn’t.

Now is the time to break out of that hold if its got you.

The only permission you need is the one that comes from you. You are the one with the power to grant it. So grant it to yourself.

What do you want permission to think, be, feel, or do today?

Give it and relax.

And from now on, please don’t ask anyone else. It’s not their decision to make.

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If you found this helpful, let me know. I’d love to  hear from you.

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Get Outside and Nurture Your Life