Curling and Life: It's about Focus, Letting Go, and Trust

Focus.

I plant my foot firmly on the hack, I draw back lifting my hips up, keep my arm straight, fingers and thumb wrapped loosely around the stone handle. I focus my eyes like a laser on the skips broom at the other end of the ice.

I pause for one second to center myself. To pay attention to where I want the stone to go.

I push-off still focusing on her broom, noticing my speed, adjusting my grip on the stone so if I need to pull back at the last second to slow it down I can.

I release it and it heads down the sheet of ice into certain uncertainty.

This is the point when I have done all that I can do. I have let go.

The stone is out of my hands both literally and figuratively. It is now up to the sweepers who brush the ice in front of the stone to determine if it is moving too fast or not, and how hard to sweep if it isn’t moving fast enough. It is up to the skip who has called the shot to determine if the line or trajectory of the stone is correct, and to tell the sweepers to keep doing what they’re doing or to call them off so the stone will end up just where she wants it.

Do you ever try so hard to do everything perfectly in your life? Like you alone have the power to make what you want to happen? Just like throwing that stone in curling, you do focus, give it your best, and hope for success.

But at some point, the outcome is not in our hands anymore. It really isn’t. We have to let go. After you throw the stone, you have done all you can do on your end to help the outcome happen as planned. It is now up to your team members to jump in and help.

But what if they do their job to the best of their ability and the sweepers sweep too hard or too early and the stone passes the mark, or the skip thinks the stone is perfectly on line but it isn’t and she calls the sweepers off and the stone misses the mark?

This is the point I usually start to second guess myself thinking if I had just let go one millisecond sooner or half an inch to the right, the outcome might have been different. And it might have been.

But then you look up and realize that although your stone did not end up where the skip asked you to throw it, it knocked away another stone from the opponent’s team that now allows your team a better shot at scoring points.

Yay.

Awesome.

Plan B.

Trust the process.

It was not what you wanted but it turned out better than plan A.

How many times have you tried to make something work or happen in your life just a certain way? You did the preparation, focused, and worked on it as best you could, but you couldn’t pull it off. At least not in the way you were hoping. Trusting the process means trusting that the universe has the best outcome for you in mind, even when you can’t see it.

Focus.

Let go.

Trust.

A lot of times things turn out better. Plan B. Maybe plan B wasn’t even on your radar. It usually isn’t. But that’s the way the universe works. We do our part by asking for what we want, focusing and taking inspired action. And then we let go. There’s nothing left to do, but trust the process. Trust that the outcome will be perfect as it is. Just maybe even better than we had planned.

And what if it doesn’t work out and plan B stinks too? You get another shot. Tomorrow is another day.

In curling you get 16 shots a game, 16 times to focus, let go, and trust.

Knowing all will work out perfectly… it just might not be my or your specific plan A.

Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it and hope you found it helpful.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

Susan

P.S. I'd really love to hear what you have let go of and what the outcome was. Seriously!!   Leave a comment below or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

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