Finding Your Own Fulfillment
When was the last time you felt excited? I mean really excited about something? Maybe you love the holidays and got to bask in all that tinsel glow a few weeks ago. Maybe you're just thrilled they're over. You could be buying a new car, starting a new relationship, a new job, or are expecting a baby.
My most recent excited feeling came from finishing a snow shoe race. After running up and down hills in five layers of clothing at minus 15 degrees farenheit for over an hour, I was super excited it was over. Okay, maybe I was looking forward to the cookies at the end, but really, I was just glad it was done.
Why do you do anything?
Is it for the money, because you think you have to, or because you're hoping it might be fun?
If you are looking for fulfillment, the real kind, it's found by following your excitement.
Follow Your Excitement
Do you remember my client from last week, Sally? She's the one raising 4 kids who felt "the pull" to join the PTA. She was over-the-top excited about getting involved with this group, sharing ideas with the other women, and using her creativity to put on a fall festival for the school that her kids attended. She could not stop talking about how much she enjoyed conversing on the phone and e-mailing back and forth with the women who were part of it all. She had a blast using her creative side painting, drawing, and building amazing booths and places to play for the kids. As she sat in my office, her excitement was absolutely palpable. I mentioned last week how the thought of joining the PTA made me cringe in pain on a hair follicle level.
But as she animatedly talked about her plans I could not help but be excited with her. She swept me in an inspired me. That's what following your excitement can do. Not only does it make you feel like a million bucks (because you are just so damn excited), the people around you get to benefit from all those good vibes you're putting out. You inspire them to go out and get involved with a person or activity that seems exciting to them, or just by being around you they feel good.
Examples of others who are following what excites them all the way to fulfillment.
Pamela Slim, is a seasoned coach and writer who helps frustrated employees in corporate jobs break out and start their own business. Her blog, Escape From Cubicle Nation is one of the top career and marketing blogs on the web today. She was one of those frustrated employees who successfully made the transition out of corporate America to what brought her fulfillment, entrepreneurship. She helps others do the same. Now that's excitement!
Then there's Chris Guillebeau, he writes The Art of Non-Conformity blog. He travels everywhere, and is on a five-year quest to visit every country in the world. He's been to over 150 countries and counting. If you are dissatisfied with conventional beliefs and want to do something remarkable with your life, he invites you to join the revolution. His excitement takes him all over, on his terms. I didn't ask him, but I'm pretty damn sure he feels fulfilled.
My friend and colleague Kanesha Baynard followed her excitement by inviting her mother-in-law to move in with her family which includes her husband and two children. To many of us this might seem taboo and oh so crazy, but not to Kanesha. She's loving it and got an inspiring blog titled, it's a full nest. She talks about multigenerational living and how awesome it can be. I know she's fulfilled.
Your Turn to Follow Your Excitement
You've already felt the pull. What direction is it taking you?
Take a few minutes to sit down and ponder this.
Maybe your pull is towards the PTA. Your excitement is about using your creativity.
Maybe your pull is towards running a marathon. Your excitement is about how you will feel getting more healthy and completing a challenging endeavor.
Maybe your pull is towards a job/career that allows you to use your strengths. Your excitement is about knowing you get to use skills that you already have to help others as well as learn even more.
You get the drift. Now what seems exciting to you? Go ahead, get comfy, close your eyes, breathe a few slow long deep breaths... feel the pull...
Then notice what exciting step you could take that lights you up? Or two steps, or three. It doesn't matter. When you are excited about something your willingness and desire can be so strong that you would move mountains to make it happen.
Following what lights you up brings Joy
That's where you want to go, toward what excites you. That is the second step towards finding fulfillment.
I follow my excitement a lot. It usually looks like walking my dogs, spending time with my boyfriend, exercising out in nature, or coaching women who really want to make changes in their lives. But after my morning activity above, my pull is towards jumping into my nice big comfy bed, curling up into a little ball, and sleeping until I feel like getting back out of it again. How's that for excitement?
Now that I’ve covered Following Your Excitement, next week I’ll delve into Finding The Ease.
Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it.
As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.
P.S. I’d love to hear about what excitement you have followed. Where has it taken you? Leave a comment below or email me, firstname.lastname@example.org
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