We have a little problem here in Fairbanks, Alaska. We are usually knee-deep in what we call break-up this time of year. The temperatures are above freezing during the day (and most nights), the snow is melting like gangbusters, we have daylight almost no matter what time you go to bed or get up, and we are leaving winter behind in the literal and metaphorical dust. Except the usual isn’t happening. We continue to have snowstorms and colder weather. We are so close to spring we can feel it with every fiber of our being but we keep being teased every few days with warmer sunshine and melting, followed by white, seriously distressing, frozen flakes falling from the sky.
It’s time to practice the “go with the flow” mentality. We’re past the grumbling stage. We’re past denial. Past sad. Past upset.
We’ve moved on to, get those skis back out and go for a spin, wow… all this snow means the ground will be more wet and provide beautiful grass and flowers this summer, and this could make for less forest fires this next season.
What we resist persists.
That’s not a new phrase but it’s true. The more we resist what is really happening, the more crappy we feel. And we can always choose how we feel at any given point by choosing what thoughts we think about the situation. Snow outside is just that. It’s snow. It isn’t good or bad. It’s neutral. It’s only good or bad based upon the judgment we place on it. To the person who absolutely loves to ski, the snow is still awesome. To the person who can’t wait to be in shorts enjoying the green grass, the snow sucks.
Going with the flow means you have to be willing to drop your personal timeline.
Because most certainly, the weather will not often cooperate and follow the timeline you have for it. How could it? Everyone has their own perfect timeline for what the weather should be like on any given day of the year depending upon what that person would prefer to be doing and what weather they think would perfectly accompany that. Poor Mother Nature couldn’t keep up with that many different requests no matter how hard she tried.
Here’s why going with the flow can be so helpful.
Because when you drop your timeline for something to happen, your stress drops markedly. The stress comes from the fact that you want something to happen in a different time frame than it is. You’ve decided that isn’t good, therefore you feel crappy about it.
Think about it, there aren’t that many instances where time is crucial, I mean life and death crucial. Other than people needing to go to the hospital or being in surgery for example, it’s us who have decided that the natural flow of the way things occur isn’t right.
Be willing to drop some of your timeline for things in life and notice what happens to your stress level. It’s like riding a wave. Go up when it goes up, come down when it comes down, and you’ll never drown in the surf… or the snow :)
Are you willing to go with the flow and drop your timeline for some event in your life? Join the conversation on the blog by leaving a comment below, or email me, firstname.lastname@example.org
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As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.
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