It's the Journey Silly

I wrote last week about pursuits we undertake in order to achieve a goal. So often we cannot wait to achieve that goal because we think it will bring us happiness, more money, satisfaction, notoriety, security, fill in the blank. But how many times have you completed a goal, spent exactly 30 seconds enjoying it, then moved on to achieving the next? This is where the journey comes in.

I have read over and over and over, and over again, that it’s about the journey, about the ride, not the destination. I hear it. It makes sense on so many levels. The reality is, we, read I, often stay focused on working towards the goal because of what I think it will give me, or bring me in the end. Forget the journey, I want to achieve the goal dammit!

Why do we do this?

One reason is that our minds have built up that achieving this goal will make us feel differently.

Like we will be a new person once we have crossed some line in the sand. We see others accomplish their goals and assume life must feel better for them, “be” better for them. But that’s the rub. They are just like you. They celebrate for 30 seconds then move on too.

The second you achieve a goal it’s done.

Think back upon on all of the hours, weeks, months, maybe even years it took you to get there. That goal is but a mere blip on the radar screen of life.

Why don’t we enjoy the journey along the way to our goal?

Because that happens in the present, and we’ve decided the present isn’t so great. So many minutes of each day are just like the day before. And the day before that. We wake up, drive to work, drive home, make dinner, watch tv, go to bed, wake up, repeat. Those minutes aren’t “exciting”, therefore not worth noticing.

When we reach a goal however, something different has happened. We can say we’ve done something. It feels exciting. And we like that feeling. We want what we would feel when the goal is complete, but don’t allow ourselves the time be with that feeling and really feel it once we get there.

So how do we go about shifting this?

As you work towards your goals and dreams, try incorporating enjoying what it would feel like to have achieved your goal as you are taking steps towards it. With each cup of coffee the barista makes, she feels that it is the best cup yet, with each repetition of leg lifts, the injured-knee patient feels his leg healing, with each watering of flowers, the gardener feels her garden growing. And with each step I take on my training runs, I feel myself running the marathon

We all just want to feel good, or better than we do.

Tell me where I’m wrong.

That’s enjoying the journey. Being there in the minutes of your day, feeling good about where you are, and feeling what it would feel like when you had completed your goal. Because you have completed a goal if not the goal. You did what you set out to do on this day.

And isn’t that all we have anyway?

Your turn: Are you enjoying your journey? What have you found that keeps you moving forward day in and day out? Leave a comment below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it and hope you found it helpful.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

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Susan Grace McDiarmid, Life Coach coachwithsusan@hotmail.com 907.374.6004

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