Love! Not only for the coupled-up

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Love is Subjective

Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone. Some celebrate it with abandon, some loathe it, and some just don’t care.

No matter what category you fall into right now, it’s perfect for you.

Since we’ve just celebrated (or not) a love-filled holiday, I thought it would be fun to share some interesting things I’ve learned about love during my life that you might find helpful.

First off, love is completely subjective.

What love means for me (or you) may make another person want to poke their eye out. The way you liked to be loved may be completely different from how others like to receive love.

A man named Gary Chapman has written a book called The 5 Love Languages. After decades of counseling, he found that there are 5 ways we generally like to communicate love that affect us on an emotional level, with one or two being higher on our list.

Here’s the big hint.

The way we give love to other people is the way we really want love to be given to us. For example. If you love to give people positive feedback by letting them know what a great job they are doing, then that is exactly what you want to hear from other people. It helps you feel loved. We give what it is we truly want.

The five love languages are:

~ Words of Affirmation

~ Acts of Service

~ Quality Time

~ Receiving Gifts

~ Physical Touch

Are you curious to learn more about these and what your main love language might be? Check out 5lovelanguages.com and take the free test to find out.

What’s even better is you don’t have to be in a relationship with a significant other for this to be helpful.

You probably have friends, coworkers, or kids. This information can be used in various situations with different people. Check out the website for other free tests and resources too.

I took both tests, the married and single version. My score came out almost exactly the same.

Even if you take the test and aren't sure if the results seem right for you, the website has a FAQ section where you can get help.

Here's to finding your own way to feeling love, and emotionally connected!!

Your Turn: I'd love to know if you learned something new about yourself.  Leave a comment below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

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