No Going Back

“We had such a wonderful time that we couldn’t bear to go back to our regular lives. And so we decided we just wouldn’t. And then all the greatness began.”   You can't go back to where you've already been I found this quote on pinterest.

This opens the door wide for your interpretation.

What came up for me was what my “regular” life was several years ago and  what the wonderful time meant.

For me it meant, I was on vacation from my regular life.

I was enjoying myself, doing what I wanted to do, relaxing, sleeping, having fun, drinking wine, not following rules and stuffing my day full beyond what I could possibly humanly do. Basically, it meant living my life authentically in the way that felt best to me. I had to walk away from my life in order to enjoy my life, and then wait until I worked long enough to save vacation time and make more money so I could take a break again. Really?

Fast-forward several years.

After reading several books by Martha Beck and falling completely head over heels in love with her philosophy on life, I decided to train with her company and become one of her life coaches. Well, actually, I didn’t just decide. I knew that was what I was supposed to do. I knew from the deepest part of who I am at more core that I was being pulled in that direction by the universe on a new and different path. I knew this because it felt like freedom. My chest felt expanded, my eyes lit up, I smiled, and the sense of possibility was absolutely overwhelming in the best possible way.

Through life coach training I learned many new concepts and ways of being.

Some were familiar but many blew my mind. More specifically that I could make up my own rules for my life, I didn’t need to worry about what others thought about me or anything else for that matter, and that I was responsible for me which is the only person I can truly be responsible for anyway. Can you imagine how looking through those glasses that the whole world could open up for you? For you! Not just other people who have the looks, the in-born talent, the money. You. Your life is there to be created not reacted to.

And the greatness did begin.

I continue to transition from my regular life to my new one. It is challenging. I haven’t changed all of the belief systems I’ve held for decades overnight. The beliefs that told me work must come before play and you must always put others first or you are selfish. I’m switching those around to if play doesn’t come first, then I’m not really living. And when I put myself first, others benefit tremendously from my rested, relaxed, happy self who has so much more to give.

Even now as I grow my coaching business slowly and authentically, I have no map as to how to do it. I’ve got mentors and others I see doing it successfully, on their terms, in their own way. I will learn from them but the journey is mine and mine alone. It has already been inspiring, scary, hard, filled with hope, disappointing, full of fun, and so wonderful that I could not possibly bear to go back to my regular life. It would be like putting me back in prison. I’ve already been there and I really don’t want to go back. I can’t say for certain that everything is going to work out as I hope, but I also know that the universe has a way of working things out so much better than I could have ever planned. I have seen it time and time again.

Why do I share this with you?

Because you might just be someone who feels like they are in prison. Either your whole life isn’t working or just some parts. I have been there. It just plain sucked. I walked away with nothing but hope. And here I stand, still on my journey, crying and laughing, loving and swearing at life, and helping others move forward in their journeys too.

Your Turn: What have you not gone back to, and are so glad you didn't? Leave a comment below, or email me,

I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

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