A common issue I see with many of my clients is their fear of making the wrong decision. They’ll say, what if I choose to do A and I’m not happy with the outcome? What if things aren’t better than where I am now? Or even, what if I’m worse off than I am now because of that decision I made? What does this fear do? It keeps them stuck. They don’t make a move in any direction at all. Nothing changes. They stay afraid and they stay right where they are.
One of my brilliant coach mentors, Brooke Castillo, likes to say, “stumble often”.
So what that you totally screwed up. So what that you wore the wrong outfit. So what that you acted like a fool. So what that you made a mistake, dated the wrong guy, ate too much, drank too much, got into debt, or farted in front of a group of people. So what!
Go ahead and feel embarrassed, feel sad, feel humiliated.
Then move on.
If you sit in the corner trying to stay safe in order to ‘not’ make the wrong decision, life is passing you by. Life happens 24/7 around you while you sit and wait.
The joy in life comes from the messiness, the unexpected, the mistakes, the wow- if I hadn’t done A I would have never met B and found the perfect mate, the perfect job, the perfect house, or had the perfect experience.
Some of my fondest memories and funniest stories are from when I royally screwed up. Like the time I got a speeding ticket, and I was truly speeding, but told the cop I thought my speedometer was broken. I seriously said that. I was 21 at the time. And when I laughed so hard I peed my pants in front of a group of people. Not kidding about that. Won’t tell you how old I was when that happened but I can tell you I was already considered an adult. So what!
It is by actually making those so-called “mistakes” that you are on the perfect path. Maybe something didn’t work out at that time but later down the road it set you up for something wonderful. Learn what didn’t work for you, then move forward and make a different decision next time.
It is all part of your personal life journey. Say something different, do something different, be something different, try something different. Stumble often.
Stumble yourself right into awesomeness.
Then do it again.
Keep doing it.
What are you waiting for? YOUR life is waiting!
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