Learning

Nurturing Your Intellectual side

If you are anything like me, you love to learn. I have a vast array of interests that range from gardening, to quantum physics, to how to make your own natural house cleaning products, to how the thoughts we think create a certain energy and that same type of energy comes back to us in our daily lives. Varied interests I have! Which is why it is so important that I nurture my intellectual side. It’s part of what makes life so fun and interesting. It keeps us intrigued, motivated, and helps us feel more alive.

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And what about you? What intellectual curiosities are you nurturing?

Are you making time in your schedule and your life to do this?

If you aren’t and you’d like to, the most wonderful thing is, in this day of the Internet you can find almost anything you are curious about online. Possibly for free even.

Just go to your favorite search engine and type in a topic like classes on how to scratch your nose with no one noticing, and bingo, about 6.5 million hits will pop up.

Seriously, you can find all sorts of free information online about any topic you are interested in. You could also go to a used bookstore, your library, or maybe you have a local community college where you can take inexpensive classes on a new topic of curiosity. There are even low-cost or free classes you can take online as well.

Really, the ways to nurture your intellectual side are endless.

So discover what you’re interested in and go look into it.

Guess what? I just scratched my nose. And you missed it. ;)

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Random events aren't really random

I believe in a friendly universe and I believe events that happen in your life that seem random, aren’t. If you’re willing to pay attention that is.

I mentioned my dog child Kona two weeks ago and how I dealt with the uncertainty of what was happening with him. If you missed it, you can read about it here. dice

The week after Kona had the herniated disc in his back was beyond stressful for me. The kind where you don’t sleep, or eat stressful.

Kona had some kind of a neurological event that caused strange things to happen with one of his eyes. It looks a bit odd, but thankfully, he can see fine.

I found a lump under his armpit and the cells inside were abnormal. I waited two excruciating days to find out if he had cancer or not. He doesn’t. Phew!

And he was diagnosed with arthritis that would need some pretty heavy-duty meds or he would be limping and in pain for the rest of his life. We’ve started those and he’s improving already.

How random all of this seemed. How unsettled I felt.

How could an active healthy dog go from running miles and miles one day to looking like he might not make it through the next day, like overnight?

I had to sit with these questions.

In doing so, I found helpful insight and meaning when I really looked at what seemed like random events.

Am I really paying attention to my life? Kona had some arthritis symptoms now that I look back. I didn’t know that’s what they were, but I’m aware now. Where in my life do I have symptoms of a problem that I’m not aware of or that needs addressing?

Kona had an issue with his eye. What am I not seeing clearly in my life or what do I need to see that I’m completely missing?

There’s that lump I found under his arm. Do I do regular mammograms and get check ups to make sure I remain in good health or catch something early?

What happens outside of us can be a reflection of what’s going on inside of us. Everything is a mirror.

My dog Kona has shown me so much the past few weeks. His issues have given me a lot to think about in my life.

I also found out how deep my love for him was. I’ve always known it was incredibly huge. But when I thought the end could be near, my sadness was overwhelming.

I didn’t know my heart was so big.

I invite you to look at the events in your life that seem random. Are they really? What can you discover or learn?

It’s your life. It matters.

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You only need to stay in your business

Byron Katie from thework.com teaches that there are three kinds of business. It is so powerful that I teach it to my clients. The three businesses are yours, other people’s, and God’s (the universe, or reality).

You have absolutely no control over other people’s business or that of the universe.  notyourbusiness

You can’t control if someone will like you, if they’ll do what you want them to do, feel the way you want them to feel, or live their life in the way you think is best for them. That’s their job.

You also can’t control if it’s going to rain today or if there will be a war in some country next week. That’s the universe’s job.

What you do have control over is you.

Your thoughts.

Your feelings.

Your actions.

Your reactions.

That’s it.

But we spend a lot of time worried about how other people live their lives, especially when we think what they do will affect us.

We think we know what’s best for someone else. We can’t know. That’s their job.

It’s helpful to remember that we all act out of our own fears, belief systems, and desires. We are all entitled to want what we want.

If you really think someone is going to affect your life in an unsafe way, then by all means, say something. But in the end, remember that your power lies within you regardless of what they do or don’t do.

If you want someone to think, feel, act, and be other than they are, then you are in their business. If you’re in their business you are out of your own business. You aren’t in your life.

And isn’t one life (yours) already enough to worry about.

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The dog and the squirrel

Elvis the stalking dog and Elvira the unsuspecting squirrel play a little game at our house. Elvira the Unsuspecting

Elvis, in a non-stalking position

Elvira happily munches on birdseed that has fallen on the deck below the bird feeder outside our living room window.

Elvis stalks her, standing very still, poised to run after and catch her, if he can.

But he never does catch her.

Why?

Because just as he has been so stealth and silent in his movements by the window, the second he takes off tearing down the hallway to run through the doggie door onto the deck, Elvis lets out a loud, high pitched squeal. Elvira can’t help but hear him coming, even if she hasn’t seen him.

And he does it every time.

With this strategy he will never catch her.

Does this sound familiar?

Where in your life are you trying to accomplish something using one strategy over and over again with the same results? The results you really don’t want.

Poor Elvis is just a dog. His brain probably can’t comprehend that losing the squeal might equal catching the squirrel.

But your brain can understand, that if you want a different result, you’ve got to do something different. It could be thinking about it in a new way so you feel differently, then take a new action.

Say you have a desire (A), so you take action (B), to get result (C).

But you aren’t getting C.

What does B need to look like in order to increase your chances of getting C?

Try it. If it doesn’t work, try something else.

As I heard a Master Gardner recently say “every year my garden is an experiment.” That coming from someone who knows A LOT about gardening.

I think all of life is an experiment really.

Go try it out.

Let me know about one thing you changed to get what you want that made all the difference. Leave a comment on the blog below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com.

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A lesson from my garden

Summer is in full swing now, complete with green leafy trees, hot sunshine, and mosquitoes galore. A few weeks ago, I was out in my garden clearing out weeds, tilling the soil, and preparing it to plant vegetables. It needed a lot of work. It was a daunting task.  cleaning out the weeds of life The last few years I hadn’t been good about pruning back the perennials that come up every spring. I hadn’t been clearing the leaves or getting rid of dead underbrush. And for those of you who garden, you know that’s a big no-no if you don’t want to spend your time ripping your own hair out by the roots.

But as repetitive work like that always does, it got me pondering. Where else in my life have I let some things pile up, not get cleared out?

How often do you let things go too long before you clean them up? Stay in an unsatisfactory job you’re afraid to move away from, or remain with a friend or significant other in an unhealthy relationship but do nothing about it?

The longer we do nothing, the bigger the task, and the more daunting it becomes.

I know this is true because as I look at my garden I wonder… how different my work in it would be this year if I had just kept up with some maintenance?

What would my relationship with it be like or how would I feel differently?

I think it would be less daunting, less challenging, more fun and enjoyable.

Every relationship we have, whether it be with our work, significant others, friends, with our selves, or our garden requires time and attention. And the recognition of when something needs to be shifted, changed, or completely cleared out. My garden is teaching me.

What is yours teaching you?

I'd love to hear if you've learned a valuable lesson from your own garden. Join the conversation on the blog by leaving a comment below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

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Nurturing Your True Nature

As much as I am a teacher and guide, I am also simultaneously a student.  Nurture you. I am currently in a deep learning role as I have joined a year-long nature-based coaching course which is teaching me how to connect with the natural world in such a way that I can learn more about my strengths, desires, and gifts that only I have to share with the world.

I spent this last weekend at a nature reserve in NY with my class, all life coaches, learning as students, to no only discover our gifts but to utilize the natural world to help connect our clients to their own true nature as well.

I always knew on some level that the fast pace of the world did not fit my true nature. I find the same with many of my clients who are tired of burning the candle at both ends and feeling like they never have enough time.

Some of the practices I’ve started have helped me change perspective, shown me insights, and helped bring more calm and presence into my life. I thought I would share one practice with you in hopes that you might benefit too.

It’s called Sit Spot.

Find a place not too far from the front door of where you live, but away from any distractions where you can be out in some form of nature. I invite you to go sit outside for 10-15 minutes. I suggest committing to just one week.

The only rule is that you just notice what you notice about nature and yourself without judgment. Without judgment.

So here’s the thing. Your mind is going to do what human minds do. It’s going to talk to you about all the things you have to do and should be doing, and that sitting doing nothing is a waste of your time, that it’s boring, and dumb. Thank your brain for its input and remind it that it’s only 15 minutes and 1 week out of a 52-week year.

Don’t worry. After a bit your brain will settle down. And that’s when cool stuff happens.

As you sit, ask yourself the following questions...

What do I notice?

What can I learn from what I’m noticing?

Where else is this showing up in my life?

Nature will always act as a mirror, reflecting back to you what is happening inside of you. Always.

It will show you what is true for you in that moment.

What you do with that information is up to you.

Your Turn: What have you learned about yourself from nature in the past? Leave a comment below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

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Curiosity is the Spice of Your Life

As a Life Coach, and individual, I am continuously learning. I just love to learn about stuff I’m interested in. A lot of it is information I share with my readers and clients to help them make more informed, enlightened choices for their own lives. Some stuff I don’t share because you would probably think I’m whacked. I’ve got my own quirks too ya know.  Be curious about your life I get so excited about learning for learning’s sake because I’m curious.

I’m curious about why and how leaves change color in the fall. I’m curious as to whether that mushroom growing in my yard is edible. I’m curious if a certain product will make my life easier.

It seems that so many people have lost their curiosity in our hurried, agenda-filled, business-like, clock-timed world.

Which is such a bummer because curiosity is our greatest resource for learning.

It allows you to get in touch with what excites you. When you get in touch with that and follow its path, you find it is yours alone. You come face to face with surprises destined for you alone. You discover your own natural, personal rhythm.

This is what Joseph Campbell calls “following your bliss”.

The philosophical lessons you learn about your truth for your life help you learn to trust yourself and your intuition. Then you invariably find the perfect people and experiences you need at just the right time, to move you forward on your next step in your own personal journey.

Have you lost your curiosity? Want to find it again?

Take a sheet of paper and make 2 columns. In the 1st, write Curiosity at the top. Below it, write as many words you can think of to define the meaning and feeling of curiosity for you.

At the top of the 2nd column, write Examples. Next to each word you wrote to define curiosity, write something you currently do or want to do in your life that you associate with that word.

Like this:

   Curiosity                          Examples

    Fun                       Taking a class about bugs

    Interested            Learning a new skill like how to tile the bathroom floor

What are you already doing? Can you do more of it? What would you like to be doing?

I invite you to find something you’re curious about and go look into it or do it.

Is it a book about a certain topic? Something on the internet you’re dying to look up? A trail near your house you’ve always wanted to hike? A new restaurant you’ve wanted to try?

Go into it with curiosity. See what you see. Hear what you hear. Feel what you feel. Just notice.

That’s the spice of your life.

Now go be curious…

Your Turn: What have you learned about something or yourself when you were curious? Leave a comment below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it and hope you found it helpful.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

 

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