Why Your Natural Rhythm Needs Nurturing

Did you know we each have our own perfect internal natural rhythm? Think about what an ideal day would look like in your life.

How much sleep do you get at night to feel your best? Do you eat 3x/day or 6? Do you exercise for 30 minutes or 2 hours? Do you work best in the morning? Do you think best in the morning, afternoon, or evening? When do you do fun things? Does a nap help rejuvenate you or make you groggy?

This is all about energy. Your energy. When you have it and when you don’t.

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I’ve got friends who are night owls. They are most alert, awake, creative, and productive between 11pm and 3am. This blows me away. If I’m not sleeping during those hours, I’m a wreck. I’m a sun girl. When the sun comes up I’m ready to go. When it’s gone, so am I. But I know that about myself, and I plan my life around that natural rhythm accordingly.

I only have so much energy throughout the day. So do you.

I want to feel great energy, alert, and focused when I’m working on certain activities, like coaching clients. I can’t do it past a certain time or my brain is fried and they don’t get my best. They deserve my best.

Do you know how your energy ebbs and flows throughout the day? Do you know when you have the most, when you have the least, and schedule your life (even you work schedule) around that?

Give this a try. Spend one week writing down when you have energy and when you don’t. Notice the time of day and what you are doing.

Look for the patterns. Do you do the activities that require the most energy physically or mentally when you actually have that energy? Or are you trying to grudgingly get through something that’s taking forever when your energy is at a lower level?

Since you have your own natural energy rhythm, why not work with it rather than against it. Schedule high brain and or physically energy activities during your day when you have the energy for them. Schedule the activities that don’t require much out of you during the times when you don’t have much energy to give to them.

Honor yourself. Don’t try to squeeze out energy where it doesn’t exist. It ain’t gonna happen. You’ll only feel more depleted.

Use your time wisely and efficiently by flowing with your energy. That’s one way to actually get things done, with more enthusiasm even, and have time to spare.

Listen to your energy. It’s speaking to you.

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Are you choosing to be too busy?

I don’t like being all that busy. I don’t enjoy a to-do list a mile long. I hate having every second of every day filled with something to do. I don’t look forward to rushing from one thing to the next to get it all done.  busy woman Because of this, I’m actually not that busy.

By choice.

Sure I have to-do lists. I have a life coaching business. I also have a part-time job. I have two dogs to take care of. A house that needs attention. A husband who needs love. Me, who needs care.

Busy is a choice.

How do I know this? Because I used to be busy all the time. I ran around with my head cut off like a chicken trying to get shit done. And guess what. Some days it got done, some days it didn’t. Either way, I felt stress all the time.

Now, I don’t feel stressed about that very often.

How did I change that?

I stopped trying to do it all. And all in one day. I prioritized. What really needed to get done that day got done. If something extra got completed, it was icing on the cake. If not, more down time.

That to-do list will be there in some form for the rest of your life. Why not choose a better way to get through it by only focusing on what’s important at the time, on that day. If something never moves to the top of the list, maybe it’s just not that important. :)

What can you drop to become less busy, and less stressed? Leave a comment on the blog below, or email me,

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Time Management- It's not what you think

To hear the audio version of this blog, click here. In last week’s blog I mentioned giving a time management presentation to a local group. I thought I’d share some highlights here so you can benefit too.

Time is time. It just flows by. No matter what we do or don’t do, in 24 hours, another day will be here.   time flies when you're full of energy doing what's important to you

I often hear people say, I don’t have enough time or I’m just so busy. Enough time for what?, I ask, or too busy for…?

Time is not about minutes. It truly isn’t.

Time is about energy, values, and choices.

And what you do with your time based on those three things.


First off, you need to discover what you actually do with your time. I invite you to spend one full day looking at how you spent your time. Keep a little notepad with you. Write things down in 15-minute increments or 1 hour, or whatever works for you. This will give you a good idea of how you spent your time. Include everything. I mean everything. Work, driving, laundry, sleep, eating, bathroom time, kid stuff, reading, exercising… you get the picture.

After this is completed close your eyes and imagine yourself going through your day. What part of your day did you have the most energy? Where were you dragging? Notice what you were doing during those times. What gave you energy? What drained it?

I ask this because we all have our own natural body rhythm. Some times of the day our energy is higher, some times it’s lower. Are you doing things that require higher energy during your higher energy periods? Or doing easy things that don’t take as much brain power and/or physical energy when you naturally have less? If not, see where in your schedule you can tweak it. Or if it drains you, drop it.

Next up, VALUES.

Look at your day again. Out of everything you did do, what was really important to you? Was it your job because you get to be creative? Or your job because it pays the bills? Is it being a member of a community group because you get to socialize with friends? Is it driving your kids to and from sports practice because you get some time in the car to talk with them? Notice what you are doing that is truly valuable to you during your day. If something isn’t truly valuable, why are you doing it?


We all really do choose what we do with our 24 hours each day. Contrary to popular belief, you do choose to either go to work or call in sick, answer an email or not, buy something for a friend or decide you really don’t have the extra money to spend right now. Everything you do every day is a choice.

The big question is, are you choosing based on your energy level and what you value?

Because if you are, your time will be well spent and much less stressful. Think about it. How can you align your day with your natural energy level and what’s important to you? Imagine your day along those lines. This could be little tweaks or big changes. What can you start saying no to that doesn’t bring you energy or serve your values? Then notice what this does to your time.

I’m asking the questions, but you’ve got the answers.

During my presentation, I also gave a list of some various ways to manage time. If you want it, email me, put 'time management tips' in the subject line and I'll gladly send it to you.

Are your energy and values lined up with your choices? Join the conversation on the blog by leaving a comment below, or email me,

I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

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Are you a BE'er or a DO'er?

If you'd like to hear the audio version of this blog, click here. So what is a BE’er compared to a DO’er? I’ve been pondering this lately because of my own experience. More on that later.

This is my take on BE’ers and DO’ers.    BE'ing or DO'ing?

BE’ers are better at relaxing, going with the flow, pondering, letting things percolate, not hurrying or rushing.

They don’t see a need to be “doing something” all the time. In fact, doing something just to be busy is stressful for BE’ers. The upside is BE’ers are fairly happy people. The downside is BE’ers sometimes take a long time to get things done. They don’t see a hurry to finish something in order to move on to the next thing. Some things just don’t get done. That can be stressful for BE’ers.

DO’ers on the other hand have some opposite traits.

If they sit still for more than 10 seconds, they get antsy. Their mind always whizzes at 1000 mph with everything on their “to-do” list, trying to get it all done, and then some. The idea of a massage, pedicure, or a nap sounds fabulous, but only when the “to-do” list is done. Which is never, by the way. The upside is that DO’ers do get a lot done. The downside is they’re exhausted, depleted, stressed, and can’t keep up that pace indefinitely.

The common thread for both is stress.

Stress in BE’ing too much and stress in DO’ing too much.

I’ve recognized this stress due to my own experiences. I used to be more of a DO’er. Go, go, go. Get this done, done, done. Then I would rest. The message I learned growing up was you get to rest and play after the work is done. Which I followed diligently. And how’d that work for me? It didn’t. Things got done but I felt depleted and tired. And not in the good way when you put your heart and soul into something and are exhausted but fulfilled. No, I felt empty. And there were still things to do.

Then I rallied against the DO’er mentality and switched camps for a while. I became a BE’er. After DO’ing for so much of my life, it felt glorious. Relaxing and not fretting about getting everything done on my “to-do” list everyday was awesome for a while. My brain wasn’t continually spinning about what I had to do next.

Except, I found that I was BE’ing too much. I wasn’t stimulated enough. I actually wanted to be more of a DO’er. Not just busy stuff DO’ing, but  meaningful, heart-felt DO’ing.

I can now say I know what it feels like to burn the candle at both ends and to just hang out and watch one candle burn at the other end. And here’s what I found.

Either extreme doesn’t work.

When you are at one end, you want to be at the other.

I like to be somewhere in the middle. Not square center middle, but somewhere where I flow. I’m a DO’er as much as my own personal energy and excitement carry me to do. I’m a BE’er when I need to sit back, relax, and take time.

I’ve got to know myself in order to do that. I’ve got to listen to my body physically to know when it’s got the energy to DO or needs to BE and rest. I’ve got to know if I’m saying yes to do something that I really truly want to do or because I think I “should”. I can tell you from experience, when you say yes to something and really want to say no, you will drain your energy and feel depleted. Many of my clients have experienced this as well.

You’ve got to know you. Your own perfect balance of BE’ing and DO’ing will not be like anyone else’s. And it shouldn’t be because it’s yours.

Is your BE’ing self and DO’ing self aligned with your energy and balanced in a way that works for you? If not, give me a call. I can help.

Your Turn: Do you have some great tips for Be'ing or DO'ing more effectively? Sharing helps us all.  Leave a comment below, or email me,

I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

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Life Outside the Fast Lane

It seems that everyone is in a hurry. We speed through our day to get everything done on our to-do list, then we get up and do it all again the next day. Because things can happen fast we assume they should always happen fast. Life outside the fast lane What’s so crazy is that we as humans have not evolved as a species to physically keep up with all the speed we have created.

How do I know this?

Because people I talk to are tired. Burning the candle at both ends tired. Tired of keeping up with their schedule. Tired of trying to keep up with the latest technology gadget, tired of saying yes when they really want to say no, and tired of being connected to everyone everywhere 24/7.

I know what that feels like. I’ve been there. I’ve filled my days so full that sleep was the only reprieve from life.

Sleep as a reprieve from life…

How healthy does that sound? It wasn’t. I can assure you. I had sleep deprivation, headaches, and gastrointestinal issues to go with my crazy busy life and it wasn’t fun.

I fell into the trap. Pushing myself harder and harder to achieve more, better, faster.

What was I trying to prove? That I could make it in the world and be a success? A success at what? Speed?

We are a nation suffering from a lack of fulfillment.

We are killing ourselves from the inside out because we are trying to find happiness outside of ourselves.

It’s no surprise that often when weekends come we want to slow down our pace, do less, sleep more. Quality overrides quantity. We have been taught that you must work really hard and drive yourself into the ground, and then you can rest. And we bought it. Thinking that’s the way it had to be done.

We all have a natural rhythm or pace that feels right for us.

We haven’t been encouraged to discover it for ourselves and follow it. Which is really a tragedy. Because when we each step out as who we are moving at our own perfect place, creativity abounds, epic stuff gets done. Time stands still.

I know this because the crowds I run in are doing exactly that. Loving their life, working at their pace, on fire, so filled up and passionate about what they are doing that their energy could light a community. They go to bed tired but fulfilled, and ready to go the next day. Not exhausted and depleted, wishing there was never an alarm to wake up to again.

I Stepped out of the fast lane.

Not only was I tired of keeping up, I couldn’t keep up. Then I decided to stop trying to keep up. I felt less tired. And the headaches went away. And the gastrointestinal issues did too. Feeling rested most mornings and invigorated by my day ahead is what lights me up. Helping people find their own natural rhythm does too.

Your Turn: What's one step you can or have taken to step out of the fast lane? Leave a comment below, or email me,

I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

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