Find the Ease

This is the third post in the 3-part series about

Finding Your Fulfillment

In the past two week's posts I talked about Feeling the Pull, then Following your Excitement. Today I'm going to delve into Finding the Ease.

Do you remember the last time you took inspired action towards a change you want to make in your life or a goal you wanted to accomplish?  Really think back. Did you notice doors opening up that surprised you or crazy coincidences happening to help you? I don't believe in coincidences, or what some people call random happenings. I believe in synchronicities. This is how the universe  conspires to help make your goals a reality.

Finding the Ease

From the last two posts, let's return to my former client Sally who felt her pull to join the PTA and followed her excitement by wanting to use her creativity to put on a festival at her kid's school. She was welcomed with open arms to the organization, the person who headed up the festival from the previous year had just stepped down and they needed a new organizer, and she found just the right people at just the right time to help her with her projects. On the day of the festival, everyone she needed to show up and help out were there to do their jobs and fill in when needed. The carnival was an absolute hit with the kids, the parents loved it, and my client, though exhausted, felt so fulfilled.

As she sat in my office and recounted the events above she was grinning from ear to ear. She said she felt energized by the experience as well as having a sense of contentment. She was able to use her talents in way she enjoyed, bringing both joy to others and herself. That my friend, is finding the ease.

No Work required

This is what happens when you are traveling on the right path for you. It's feels fun and there is a sense of ease around it. When trying to get what you want the pieces of the puzzle all fit together perfectly. It's almost like you don't even have to try.

Maybe you are searching for a friend you have lost touch with and you spend some time on the internet hoping to find information that will lead you to connect with them. When you aren't expecting it you see a story on a tv show about a resource that helps people connect with people from their past. Or you get a phone call from a friend who out of the blue tells you they just heard about the person you are trying to reach and has a tip that will lead you to the next step. That is what I call synchronicity in play.

Where have synchronicities shown up for you?

Think back on your life and find a time when you were excited about something. It could be a project you were working on, planning a vacation, or cooking something new for a dinner party. Anything. Got it?

Now notice the ways you were able to get what you wanted and needed to move you forward with your plan. Really think about it...

What did you come up with? Did you find that some information you needed came to you without you really trying or that the timing of when something arrived could not have been better, even if you had planned it all out. Everything comes together, just so.

My clients and friends say this happens to them a lot. It happens to me too.

And that is where fulfillment is found

There is a pattern here. 3 steps. Feel the pull, follow your excitement, and find the ease. Maybe you did find your long-lost friend or the dinner party was successful, and you felt fulfilled. But fulfillment is not only found at the end of the journey, when you accomplish what you set out to do. It can be and is found in each step along the path.

When you feel the pull, you yearn for or desire something. That feels good. When you follow your excitement, you are doing something pleasurable and having fun. That feels good. When you find the ease, the puzzle pieces fit together without work and any effort is inspired. That feels good. Don't wait, fulfillment is right in front of you.

Where do you feel pulled now?

My Own Ease

Writing blog posts for you feels relaxed and fun. When I sit down to write, the ideas just flow. If I get stuck, all I have to do is walk away for a little while and will invariably read something in a book or hear someone say just the right word that I need to jumpstart my creativity again. I just have to be open to it happening. And it work because I felt the pull to write, followed my excitement in creating a blog and coming up with a bazillion ideas for posts, and find there is ease in the process of how it all unfolds.

If you were to ask me, I'd say its magic!!!!

And all you have to do is follow what feels good. That's all I do.

This completes the 3-part series about Finding Your Fulfillment. Join me next time as I get into what fulfillment really means.

Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it and hope you found it helpful. 

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!


P.S. I’d love to hear about what ease you have found when working towards something that excites you; what cool synchronicities have come up that just seem like they could not have been planned better? Leave a comment below or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

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Follow Your Excitement

This is the second post in a 3-part series about

Finding Your Own Fulfillment

When was the last time you felt excited? I mean really excited about something? Maybe you love the holidays and got to bask in all that tinsel glow a few weeks ago. Maybe you're just thrilled they're over. You could be buying a new car, starting a new relationship, a new job, or are expecting a baby.

My most recent excited feeling came from finishing a snow shoe race. After running up and down hills in five layers of clothing at minus 15 degrees farenheit for over an hour, I was super excited it was over. Okay, maybe I was looking forward to the cookies at the end, but really, I was just glad it was done.

Why do you do anything?

Is it for the money, because you think you have to, or because you're hoping it might be fun?

If you are looking for fulfillment, the real kind, it's found by following your excitement.

Follow Your Excitement

Do you remember my client from last week, Sally? She's the one raising 4 kids who felt "the pull" to join the PTA. She was over-the-top excited about getting involved with this group, sharing ideas with the other women, and using her creativity to put on a fall festival for the school that her kids attended. She could not stop talking about how much she enjoyed conversing on the phone and e-mailing back and forth with the women who were part of it all. She had a blast using her creative side painting, drawing, and building amazing booths and places to play for the kids. As she sat in my office, her excitement was absolutely palpable. I mentioned last week how the thought of joining the PTA made me cringe in pain on a hair follicle level.

But as she animatedly talked about her plans I could not help but be excited with her. She swept me in an inspired me. That's what following your excitement can do. Not only does it make you feel like a million bucks (because you are just so damn excited), the people around you get to benefit from all those good vibes you're putting out. You inspire them to go out and get involved with a person or activity that seems exciting to them, or just by being around you they feel good.

Examples of others who are following what excites them all the way to fulfillment.

Pamela Slim, is a seasoned coach and writer who helps frustrated employees in corporate jobs break out and start their own business. Her blog, Escape From Cubicle Nation is one of  the top career and marketing blogs on the web today. She was one of those frustrated employees who successfully made the transition out of corporate America to what brought her fulfillment, entrepreneurship.  She helps others do the same. Now that's excitement!

Then there's Chris Guillebeau, he writes The Art of Non-Conformity blog. He travels everywhere, and is on a five-year quest to visit every country in the world. He's been to over 150 countries and counting. If you are dissatisfied with conventional beliefs and want to do something remarkable with your life, he invites you to join the revolution. His excitement takes him all over, on his terms. I didn't ask him, but I'm pretty damn sure he feels fulfilled.

My friend and colleague Kanesha Baynard followed her excitement by inviting her mother-in-law to move in with her family which includes her husband and two children. To many of us this might seem taboo and oh so crazy, but not to Kanesha. She's loving it and got an inspiring blog titled, it's a full nest. She talks about multigenerational living and how awesome it can be. I know she's fulfilled.

Your Turn to Follow Your Excitement

You've already felt the pull. What direction is it taking you?

Take a few minutes to sit down and ponder this.

Maybe your pull is towards the PTA. Your excitement is about using your creativity.

Maybe your pull is towards running a marathon. Your excitement is about how you will feel getting more healthy and completing a challenging endeavor.

Maybe your pull is towards a job/career that allows you to use your strengths. Your excitement is about knowing you get to use skills that you already have to help others as well as learn even more.

You get the drift. Now what seems exciting to you? Go ahead, get comfy, close your eyes, breathe a few slow long deep breaths... feel the pull...

Then notice what exciting step you could take that lights you up? Or two steps, or three. It doesn't matter. When you are excited about something your willingness and desire can be so strong that you would move mountains to make it happen.

Following what lights you up brings Joy

That's where you want to go, toward what excites you. That is the second step towards finding fulfillment.

I follow my excitement a lot. It usually looks like walking my dogs, spending time with my boyfriend, exercising out in nature, or coaching women who really want to make changes in their lives. But after my morning activity above, my pull is towards jumping into my nice big comfy bed, curling up into a little ball, and sleeping until I feel like getting back out of it again.  How's that for excitement?

Now that I’ve covered Following Your Excitement, next week I’ll delve into Finding The Ease.

Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it. 

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!


P.S. I’d love to hear about what excitement you have followed. Where has it taken you? Leave a comment below or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

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