Why do you run from certain emotions as fast and as far as you can? Because you’ve decided they don’t feel good. And if an emotion doesn’t feel good it can’t possible be good for you to feel. Right? Well, no!
I have to tell you, it has taken me a loooooong time to really understand this intellectually and believe it physically. But I totally get it now.
The emotions you have, like, anger, sadness, fear, joy, guilt, are there because of the thoughts you think about some circumstance, another person, or yourself. Without those thoughts you would not have an emotion. Your thoughts create your emotions. Period.
You can change your thoughts on purpose if you want to feel something different, but I’m not going to focus on that today.
Today I’m focusing on actually physically feeling those emotion states, those words you have in your mind for emotions.
Your emotions can be felt physically, as sensations or vibrations in the body.
Let’s work through an example.
Think about the last time you were angry. What was happening in your life? Now, I want you to close your eyes and hold that situation in your minds eye. Then I want you to do a body scan. From the tips of your toes to the top of your head.
I want you to notice and be curious about the physical sensations that show up in your body that go with this emotion of anger.
Where do you feel it? How does it show up? Does it have a size? A color? Does it hum or buzz? Does it tighten areas or loosen them up?
What I want you to understand and practice is that when you feel your emotions physically you get to practice living with them and through them. When you fully give yourself to sitting with the vibration of feeling them then you know that even though sometimes they aren’t comfortable, they will pass. You’re afraid of them because you think you will feel horrible and stay feeling icky all day, or maybe forever. But that isn’t what happens.
Your power lies in feeling those emotions.
When you are willing to feel your emotions physically (All of them), then you know you can do it. There is nothing to be afraid of because if you can feel happiness, anger, fear, panic, and know that you can live through them, then they have no power over you. When you feel them with curiosity and without judging them for being there, they pass through and move on. It’s just a form of energy that wants to move.
When you know you can survive your emotions, then you know you can survive anything. Then you have nothing to run from or hide from.
And as one of my favorite teachers in the coaching world says, you will be willing to show up in the world in a way that most people are unwilling to do which means you probably have a life that most people are unwilling to create for themselves. And that my friends are sage advice.
So tell me, what one emotion do you hate feeling or are afraid to feel? And are you willing to feel it today? Set a timer for 90 seconds and go. When the timer goes off, let it go and move forward with your day. You absolutely have that control.
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