fulfillment

What's Your Bottom Line?

I’m super curious as to what’s going through your mind right now as to what you think I really mean. And no, it has nothing to do with financials, butt size, or hem length.

Your bottom line has everything to do with what’s important to you in your life, and if you are living from that place.

Here’s what I know.

When I think about my life, what I truly want most (my bottom line) is to fill as much of my time with what I enjoy and love.

When I focus my attention on my bottom line, my life feels awesome. I feel happier. I feel fulfilled. Feeling fulfilled is one of the number one feelings I love to feel.

That’s why come summer when I walk into a greenhouse filled with flowers (bursting with the most amazing colors) I literally drool, and melt, and want to bring in a hammock and lay there (right in the middle between the geraniums and the Gerbera daisies). If you think I’m kidding, I’m not. That’s how happy walking around a greenhouse makes me feel. I feel so calm and full of life at the same time. Honestly, that explanation doesn’t even begin to describe how I truly feel. I just don’t have the words. Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

Then I get to buy some of those beauties, bring them home, and enjoy them all summer long. Aaaaahhh… bliss I tell you.

I know it’s a super simple example. Doing work I love and spending time with people I love is important too, but it’s all those things that bring you to your own bottom line that are important.

If I asked what’s your bottom line, could you tell me?

If you want to live your life in a way that fills you up, knowing your bottom line is pretty damn important.

The best bottom lines are clear and simple. They feel easy and right. No fuss or muss.

When you live from that place, your life feels amazing.

So I’ll ask again.

What’s your bottom line?

If you don’t know, maybe now is the perfect time to find out.

Leave a comment on the blog below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com.

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Get Outside and Nurture Your Life

You have a Natural Side to Nurture

We all have a natural side that yearns to be nurtured. But what the heck does that mean? When I think of you natural side, I think of the parts of you that flow through life with ease. Take my good friend, Lola for example, (not her real name). Lola loves to solve problems. Loves it! Give her a problem to solve and she is in her zone. Time falls away or flies by, she’s having a ball, and she has great energy. It comes naturally to her. Which is why she has chosen a career where she gets to solve problems. She gets great satisfaction from doing so. She feels filled up and all is well in her world. a woman painting

Now take my friend Lydia (not her real name either), who is an accountant. She’s pretty good at it but time doesn’t fly by when she’s doing it, she feels drained, and her excitement level about it is, pretty meh. She is not nurturing her natural side. She is fighting against it. Continuing to do what’s not working, is not going to get you to what will work.

These may be career examples but you can notice this is any area of your life.

Wondering what’s really natural for you?

Think of it this way. What are the things you do you could do all day that are fun, time stands still, and you have a lot of energy doing it?

What people are you with?

What environments are you in?

What conversations are you having?

Are you alone?

Are you outside?

What are you doing?

This is how you find out what’s natural for you. There’s an ease to it. A flow. A rhythm. It doesn’t mean it isn’t challenging, but overall it just feels right, like you’ve come home. You think, yes. This.

Why is it important to nurture this? Because this is how you get filled up, how you get energy, feel good, enjoy life. It’s that simple. Spend all of your time doing what doesn’t feel natural and life isn’t going to feel so good. Spend at least some of your time nurturing the good stuff… you (plug in how you would feel here).

Then what do you do once you’ve found what feels natural? You make damn sure it’s part of your life. If it isn’t, you schedule it on your calendar and you make it happen. You get rid of things on your calendar that don’t nurture your natural side as much as you possibly can.

I know it might be hard, I know you might be afraid. But you know what, it’s your life. You are the only one who can live it and choose what you do with your time.

If you'd like, Leave a comment on the blog below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com.

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Get Outside and Nurture Your Life

What is Fulfillment really?

With Valentine's Day almost upon us I've got one question,

Are you feeling fulfilled?

I sense that a lot of us think about what I call Heart's Day as a day that we want to share with a loved one. We shower them with some form of loving gifts or we spend quality time together. Many of us really enjoy this day, some think it's hooey, and others feel like crap because they don't have someone to bestow love on or do not have love bestowed upon them.

But I want to go deeper.

Valentine's Day is celebrated one day of the year. Those that love it, love it, those that hate it, hate, and then it's gone.

But can YOU feel fulfilled on February 14th, and any other calendar day, no matter whether you'll be sharing that day with a sweetie or not? And what does that really mean, feeling fulfilled?

I won't get into the various definitions of the word fulfillment and the use of it as a verb or noun. I want to talk about it personally and what it means for your life.

Let's get to the meat of Fulfillment.

This is what several people I surveyed said about how they know they are feeling fulfilled.

  • I'm satisfied
  • I have purpose
  • I have a full heart, a warm feeling
  • I'm making a difference
  • I'm relaxed and happy
  • I'm complete
  • I'm content
  • I have peace
  • I am in alignment with my purpose

Do any of these resonate with you? What does fulfillment feel like for you? Does your life lack this fulfilled component? Maybe you have it occasionally, maybe you have no clue what I'm saying.

Fulfillment is very personal and can only be defined by you.

You may use certain words to describe it. And only you know what those words feel like to you. For example, one of the people I surveyed above said when she is feeling fulfilled her heart feels full and warm. She actually has a physical sensation in her heart of fullness and warmth.

I bet if you choose a word(s) or emotion that describes fulfillment for you and sit for a moment, you may notice that you find a place in your body where it resides. We all carry our feelings in our body, were you aware of that? Go ahead, try it now, just for 20 seconds... What did you find?

Here's the thing. Fulfillment is about what Feeds Your Soul...

It's not always about other people do or don't do for you. Though that can be awesome. It's about digging deep and digging in and and determining what makes you (your soul, the deepest most wise part of you) feel excited inspired, at peace, content.

Some of us feel it when we are sharing time with a loved one.

Sometimes it happens when we are sitting and watching a sunset.

Occasionally we find it when we are eating something so fantastically awesome we think we have died and gone to heaven.

Many of us feel it when we are using our talents and skills to help others at work or through volunteering.

Then there is the time we notice that feeling just by stroking our dog child's soft ears (my personal favorite).

In this fulfillment we find LOVE.

Love for ourselves (who we are), love for others (who they are), love for animals, love for the earth, love for your warm fleece blanket in the winter, love for the awesome new shoes you just bought, the list could on...

Fulfillment is found in little moments and big. It is found within you no matter what is going on around you. Are you willing to look for it and enjoy what you find?

So celebrate February 14th, Valentine's Day, whether you are with someone or with yourself. No matter what the day you are always with you all the time. Are you choosing to fill each day with activities, people, animals, and quiet time that bring you fulfillment? If not, ask yourself why.

Maybe Valentine's Day is the perfect day to start.

If you are interested if finding out more about fulfillment and how you can find it, I have a 3-step formula that has worked for me my entire life. You can see some of it in my last three blog posts, Feel the Pull, Follow your Excitement, and Finding the Ease, OR get a more in depth version with my free gift Finding Fulfillment by Following Your PEE on the right side of the page by clicking on the quirky detective picture and signing up for my mailing list.

Join me next time as I explore how feeling small makes you the perfect candidate to transform your life.

Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it and hope you found it helpful. 

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

Susan

P.S. Thoughts? Leave a comment below or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

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Find the Ease

This is the third post in the 3-part series about

Finding Your Fulfillment

In the past two week's posts I talked about Feeling the Pull, then Following your Excitement. Today I'm going to delve into Finding the Ease.

Do you remember the last time you took inspired action towards a change you want to make in your life or a goal you wanted to accomplish?  Really think back. Did you notice doors opening up that surprised you or crazy coincidences happening to help you? I don't believe in coincidences, or what some people call random happenings. I believe in synchronicities. This is how the universe  conspires to help make your goals a reality.

Finding the Ease

From the last two posts, let's return to my former client Sally who felt her pull to join the PTA and followed her excitement by wanting to use her creativity to put on a festival at her kid's school. She was welcomed with open arms to the organization, the person who headed up the festival from the previous year had just stepped down and they needed a new organizer, and she found just the right people at just the right time to help her with her projects. On the day of the festival, everyone she needed to show up and help out were there to do their jobs and fill in when needed. The carnival was an absolute hit with the kids, the parents loved it, and my client, though exhausted, felt so fulfilled.

As she sat in my office and recounted the events above she was grinning from ear to ear. She said she felt energized by the experience as well as having a sense of contentment. She was able to use her talents in way she enjoyed, bringing both joy to others and herself. That my friend, is finding the ease.

No Work required

This is what happens when you are traveling on the right path for you. It's feels fun and there is a sense of ease around it. When trying to get what you want the pieces of the puzzle all fit together perfectly. It's almost like you don't even have to try.

Maybe you are searching for a friend you have lost touch with and you spend some time on the internet hoping to find information that will lead you to connect with them. When you aren't expecting it you see a story on a tv show about a resource that helps people connect with people from their past. Or you get a phone call from a friend who out of the blue tells you they just heard about the person you are trying to reach and has a tip that will lead you to the next step. That is what I call synchronicity in play.

Where have synchronicities shown up for you?

Think back on your life and find a time when you were excited about something. It could be a project you were working on, planning a vacation, or cooking something new for a dinner party. Anything. Got it?

Now notice the ways you were able to get what you wanted and needed to move you forward with your plan. Really think about it...

What did you come up with? Did you find that some information you needed came to you without you really trying or that the timing of when something arrived could not have been better, even if you had planned it all out. Everything comes together, just so.

My clients and friends say this happens to them a lot. It happens to me too.

And that is where fulfillment is found

There is a pattern here. 3 steps. Feel the pull, follow your excitement, and find the ease. Maybe you did find your long-lost friend or the dinner party was successful, and you felt fulfilled. But fulfillment is not only found at the end of the journey, when you accomplish what you set out to do. It can be and is found in each step along the path.

When you feel the pull, you yearn for or desire something. That feels good. When you follow your excitement, you are doing something pleasurable and having fun. That feels good. When you find the ease, the puzzle pieces fit together without work and any effort is inspired. That feels good. Don't wait, fulfillment is right in front of you.

Where do you feel pulled now?

My Own Ease

Writing blog posts for you feels relaxed and fun. When I sit down to write, the ideas just flow. If I get stuck, all I have to do is walk away for a little while and will invariably read something in a book or hear someone say just the right word that I need to jumpstart my creativity again. I just have to be open to it happening. And it work because I felt the pull to write, followed my excitement in creating a blog and coming up with a bazillion ideas for posts, and find there is ease in the process of how it all unfolds.

If you were to ask me, I'd say its magic!!!!

And all you have to do is follow what feels good. That's all I do.

This completes the 3-part series about Finding Your Fulfillment. Join me next time as I get into what fulfillment really means.

Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it and hope you found it helpful. 

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

Susan

P.S. I’d love to hear about what ease you have found when working towards something that excites you; what cool synchronicities have come up that just seem like they could not have been planned better? Leave a comment below or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

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Follow Your Excitement

This is the second post in a 3-part series about

Finding Your Own Fulfillment

When was the last time you felt excited? I mean really excited about something? Maybe you love the holidays and got to bask in all that tinsel glow a few weeks ago. Maybe you're just thrilled they're over. You could be buying a new car, starting a new relationship, a new job, or are expecting a baby.

My most recent excited feeling came from finishing a snow shoe race. After running up and down hills in five layers of clothing at minus 15 degrees farenheit for over an hour, I was super excited it was over. Okay, maybe I was looking forward to the cookies at the end, but really, I was just glad it was done.

Why do you do anything?

Is it for the money, because you think you have to, or because you're hoping it might be fun?

If you are looking for fulfillment, the real kind, it's found by following your excitement.

Follow Your Excitement

Do you remember my client from last week, Sally? She's the one raising 4 kids who felt "the pull" to join the PTA. She was over-the-top excited about getting involved with this group, sharing ideas with the other women, and using her creativity to put on a fall festival for the school that her kids attended. She could not stop talking about how much she enjoyed conversing on the phone and e-mailing back and forth with the women who were part of it all. She had a blast using her creative side painting, drawing, and building amazing booths and places to play for the kids. As she sat in my office, her excitement was absolutely palpable. I mentioned last week how the thought of joining the PTA made me cringe in pain on a hair follicle level.

But as she animatedly talked about her plans I could not help but be excited with her. She swept me in an inspired me. That's what following your excitement can do. Not only does it make you feel like a million bucks (because you are just so damn excited), the people around you get to benefit from all those good vibes you're putting out. You inspire them to go out and get involved with a person or activity that seems exciting to them, or just by being around you they feel good.

Examples of others who are following what excites them all the way to fulfillment.

Pamela Slim, is a seasoned coach and writer who helps frustrated employees in corporate jobs break out and start their own business. Her blog, Escape From Cubicle Nation is one of  the top career and marketing blogs on the web today. She was one of those frustrated employees who successfully made the transition out of corporate America to what brought her fulfillment, entrepreneurship.  She helps others do the same. Now that's excitement!

Then there's Chris Guillebeau, he writes The Art of Non-Conformity blog. He travels everywhere, and is on a five-year quest to visit every country in the world. He's been to over 150 countries and counting. If you are dissatisfied with conventional beliefs and want to do something remarkable with your life, he invites you to join the revolution. His excitement takes him all over, on his terms. I didn't ask him, but I'm pretty damn sure he feels fulfilled.

My friend and colleague Kanesha Baynard followed her excitement by inviting her mother-in-law to move in with her family which includes her husband and two children. To many of us this might seem taboo and oh so crazy, but not to Kanesha. She's loving it and got an inspiring blog titled, it's a full nest. She talks about multigenerational living and how awesome it can be. I know she's fulfilled.

Your Turn to Follow Your Excitement

You've already felt the pull. What direction is it taking you?

Take a few minutes to sit down and ponder this.

Maybe your pull is towards the PTA. Your excitement is about using your creativity.

Maybe your pull is towards running a marathon. Your excitement is about how you will feel getting more healthy and completing a challenging endeavor.

Maybe your pull is towards a job/career that allows you to use your strengths. Your excitement is about knowing you get to use skills that you already have to help others as well as learn even more.

You get the drift. Now what seems exciting to you? Go ahead, get comfy, close your eyes, breathe a few slow long deep breaths... feel the pull...

Then notice what exciting step you could take that lights you up? Or two steps, or three. It doesn't matter. When you are excited about something your willingness and desire can be so strong that you would move mountains to make it happen.

Following what lights you up brings Joy

That's where you want to go, toward what excites you. That is the second step towards finding fulfillment.

I follow my excitement a lot. It usually looks like walking my dogs, spending time with my boyfriend, exercising out in nature, or coaching women who really want to make changes in their lives. But after my morning activity above, my pull is towards jumping into my nice big comfy bed, curling up into a little ball, and sleeping until I feel like getting back out of it again.  How's that for excitement?

Now that I’ve covered Following Your Excitement, next week I’ll delve into Finding The Ease.

Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it. 

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

Susan

P.S. I’d love to hear about what excitement you have followed. Where has it taken you? Leave a comment below or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

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Feel The Pull

This is the first post in a 3-part series about

Finding Your Own Fulfillment.

I’m on a new, unchartered, scary as hell (in a good way) entrepreneurial journey now. I up and left my job as a substance abuse counselor to claim my life as a Life Coach. This was not the life I had planned for myself 5 years ago. Entrepreneur?  Me? (insert hilarious rolling on the floor laughter here) Nope- I don’t have what it takes to do something like that…

The Pull

One of the clients I worked with at the methadone clinic (where people choose to go when they want to kick their addiction to heroin, vicadin, and oxycontin), had quite the interesting viewpoint on life. I’ll call him David. One day David said to me,” You know, if I had all the money in the world, I would be high as a kite all day every day, 24/7”.

WOW—I thought. Being high must feel pretty freakin’ awesome to want to spend all day in that state. Okay I’ll admit it; I’ve been high in my life. Back in my twenties I smoked marijuana… twice. Seriously, it was only two times. And for the record, I did inhale. After the second time, I woke up in the middle of the night vomiting chunks of who knows what all over my bed and decided right then and there, I think I’m done with marijuana.

But his statement got me wondering. Do YOU have a pull that is so strong, like David’s (minus the heroin of course), that whatever it is, you would do almost anything to have it? A desire filled with expectation and possibility? I know David did. He stole, lied, and cheated to get his heroin fix. That’s how important it was to him.

Maybe you have a pull that comes up from time to time and you push it down saying to yourself, no I could never do that. I don’t have the time, money, or ability…

I’m betting you do have a desire, tug, or pull towards something that lights you up, makes you grin from ear to ear, or makes you feel like you are free.

It could be you want more free time for yourself in your life, a better relationship with someone, or long to change something in your job, maybe change professions all together.

I know for sure that we all have pulls like that. Some are stronger than others but they are there.

Some of my clients get simple messages that say, take dance lessons, go on a ski, take a class at the local university,or have tortellini soup for dinner. Others hear their inner voice telling them to go climb Denali, quit their job, or get in bed and sleep for two days. Sometimes the messages we get make sense. Yes, going on a ski is good for my health and will make me feel better. Sometimes they don’t make any sense. Why on earth would I want to go climb Denali? But that’s the beauty in feeling and listening to the pull. It ALWAYS means something. Or it wouldn’t be there to get your attention.

Another of my clients I’ll call Sally also had a pull. Sally was a busy mom, raising 4 kids, feeling like her life was missing something. She absolutely loved being a mom and wife, but felt she had no room to use her creative side and blossom in another way. Her pull was to use her creative side in a way that she could DO something that was fulfilling to her by using her talents and strengths, felt super fun, and involve her kids. She was pulled to join the PTA. I have to say, the idea of joining the PTA feels a bit painful to me personally. Kind of like pulling out my leg hairs one... at... a... time. Let’s just say her pulls are different than mine, but that’s okay because your pulls are unique to you.

The question is, are you listening to the pull? What exactly is it telling you?

Would you be willing to spend five minutes in a quiet place with no distractions? You can try this now or later. If so, sit comfortably or lie down. Take a few long deep breaths focusing on the air entering and leaving your lungs. Then when you feel a sense of calm, ask the questions, what do I want? What do I feel pulled towards? Then wait.

Just notice what comes up.

It could be anything from (a whisper) I need a nap, to I want to run a marathon, to (a scream) my job really sucks and I want out. Your deeper self will show you all sorts of interesting and fascinating directions that you really want to go. Again, just notice. No judgment allowed here. Be willing to allow these ideas to come up, notice and just sit with the feelings that arise too. Do you feel a smile come across your face? Do you have a deep longing in your bones? Does it make you feel free? Whatever it is, let it be there, just notice it and allow it for now.

And here's the 10 million dollar secret...

Your specific unique brand of pull is the first step towards finding fulfillment for your own life. Those pulls we get are the nudges from the universe saying, "this is where you are meant to go, this is what you are meant to do". As simple as taking a walk right now or as complex as planning a move across the country.  Sometimes it's a more subtle nudge, and sometimes it's so strong you just cannot ignore it anymore and you must do something with it.

My own pull was super strong.

It came from deep inside my chest, past my heart, and into my soul. I can't really put it into words that would make sense. But if you've felt it, you know.  For me it was to train as a Life Coach, then start a Life Coaching business, and become an entrepreneur. A pull so strong that if I didn’t do it I knew something would remain missing in my life, that I would not be truly fulfilled.

I know I must allow my pulls to be there, and listen to what they have to say. With just a little practice of paying attention when I feel that tug, various pulls now speak to me all the time. My clients say the same thing happens for them. And after working with addicted individuals, let’s just say I’m super thankful my own pulls don’t lead me in the heroin direction ;).

Now that I’ve covered Feeling The Pull, next week I’ll delve into Following Your Excitement.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

Susan

P.S. I'd love to hear about your personal pulls. What do they say? What do you notice in your body when you have them? Leave a comment below or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

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The Time Has Arrived!

Welcome to Bloom Time Life Coaching!!

I'm Susan Grace McDiarmid and this is my first blog post on my new website.

As many of you may (or may not know), building a website when technology ain't your thang, is hard. I mean really hard. Everything took way longer than I thought it ever could. Through blood, sweat, and yes, even tears, I got it done (almost).

My goal is to provide you the reader...

with helpful hints, tips, and tools to help you make small or big changes in your life so you can create more fulfillment. (Hint- there may be a lot of shifting in perspective that takes place :)).

So feel free to browse through the various pages, Susan's Story (which will tell you a little about me), Is This You? (where you might find something that resonates), Coaching Services (what my clients can expect from working with me), Kudos (the super nice things others have said), Resources (inspiration that I have appreciated and you might too, being added to daily right now), and Contact (well... self-explanatory ways to contact me).

Fulfillment

This is what is most important to me, and I find, for many of my readers. When we as individuals are Full-Filled, we feel we have a life of meaning and purpose, we are having fun, AND we have more to give others because we have so much ourselves. If you want to be a part of this, please join me, and other like-minded women on this journey.

Please let me know how I can be of service to you. What information would you like that would help you bring more fulfillment to your life? Seriously, I want to know. Leave a comment below, or e-mail me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

Susan :)