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Letting in the Fun

This past weekend my husband and I went to a blind wine tasting party. Each couple brought a bottle of zinfandel wine and they were placed in paper bags with numbers so no one knew what exact brand of wine it was. We were given index cards in order to write down comments on each numbered wine, then we had to rank them in order of what we liked best down to the worst as we tasted. I can’t tell you how much fun it was to chat with each person as we were tasting wine and writing our comments. The look on people’s faces when they didn’t like a wine was priceless. The scrunched up noses with their tongue sticking out of their mouths. And then by comparison, the opposite look of someone who liked the wine with a raised eyebrow and a smile. Susan Grace Carroll, Life Coach, Bend, OR

We were not in a group of wine connoisseurs which was a good thing because the adjectives we used to describe our wines were not what you might read on wine websites. For example, “Recognized for its intensity of color and good structure of tannin and acid, it presents nuances of gooseberries and a smoky, peppery bouquet and is often added to a blend to liven it up. Smooth on the palate this wine ages well and mellows with time.” What??? No, our descriptive words including things like, “ick”, “meh”, “yum,” and “sweet”, “hot”, “dry”, or “I don’t think so.”

My husband is not a wine drinker at all. It was hilarious to look at what he had written on his card. By each number his descriptors included wine, wine, wine, wine, on down the list. There was one wine he marked, “not as bad”. OMG- I thought I would pee in my pants I was laughing so hard at everyone’s experience and description.

The night hit its crescendo when the revealing of the wines took place. The host tallied up scores and let us know what the collective group thought the worst wine was and the best wine. We all stood there secretly hoping “our” wine, the one we brought, wasn’t on the bottom. The wine my husband and I brought came in second place. It cost $9.99. I was shocked. I hadn’t even rated it near the top.

Often I find I take some things WAY too seriously. Does this ever happen to you? We live in a world where serious things are happening, yes, but there’s no reason we (read me) have to make it all important. In the Buddhist sense, everything is important and nothing is important. You get to choose.

Going to work and paying bills may be important, but it’s no more important than getting out, having fun, doing something silly, laughing, and enjoying time with old friends and new.

So what’s on your fun list coming up soon?

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If you found this helpful, let me know. I’d love to hear from you. Coachwithsusan@hotmail.com.

~ Susan

Get Outside and Nurture Your Life

When was the last time you...

I was having breakfast with an inspirational friend the other day. She’s the kind of person that makes  lists of things she’s never done before but would like to do. It’s not a bucket-list really, nor a list of things she’s afraid of. It’s more of a list of activities that she has never done before but thinks would be really cool.   Pushing your edge Some of the things on her list include climbing a rock face, playing a game of polo, or going to an observatory to learn about constellations. And she even has plans to pay for a movie at the theater, then sneak into another movie after the first is done. Yes, I know this is illegal, but for the amount of money movie theaters make on tickets and food I’m guessing no one is going to be homeless after her once in a lifetime movie hopping ponzi scheme.

Her list even includes doing all of these things with a specific group of people. They actively do one thing on the list together, every month for the year. How cool is that?

While we were eating breakfast, this same friend asked me,

"When was the last time you did something for the first time?"

Oh boy do I love questions like that. I stopped to think. I thought for a bit. Then said, “I don’t know.”

We all have such regular routines in our lives. Doing the same thing day in and day out. How often do we spice things up or push our comfortable edge?

I bring this up because this friend of mine is having quite a fun life.

She laughs all…the…time. She loves to chat with others about their experiences. She’s super fun to be around. She draws you in.

She enhances life, and it in turn, is enhanced by her.

Isn’t fun and enjoyment something we’d all like to have more of in our lives?

She’s living proof it’s possible.

I took her advice and had a crazy dinner adventure at a local restaurant in Manhattan last week. First time for me. It was SO fun. I laughed and laughed and laughed. I have amazing memories.

Next I’m going to give a speech at my local toastmasters group every week for a month. Now that’s definitely pushing my edge.

You?

When’s the last time you did something for the first time?

I’ve got my list started. What’s on yours?

It would be so fun to hear what's on your list. Join the conversation on the blog by leaving a comment below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

Seeds of Kindness Bloom and Bloom and Bloom…

Find the Ease

This is the third post in the 3-part series about

Finding Your Fulfillment

In the past two week's posts I talked about Feeling the Pull, then Following your Excitement. Today I'm going to delve into Finding the Ease.

Do you remember the last time you took inspired action towards a change you want to make in your life or a goal you wanted to accomplish?  Really think back. Did you notice doors opening up that surprised you or crazy coincidences happening to help you? I don't believe in coincidences, or what some people call random happenings. I believe in synchronicities. This is how the universe  conspires to help make your goals a reality.

Finding the Ease

From the last two posts, let's return to my former client Sally who felt her pull to join the PTA and followed her excitement by wanting to use her creativity to put on a festival at her kid's school. She was welcomed with open arms to the organization, the person who headed up the festival from the previous year had just stepped down and they needed a new organizer, and she found just the right people at just the right time to help her with her projects. On the day of the festival, everyone she needed to show up and help out were there to do their jobs and fill in when needed. The carnival was an absolute hit with the kids, the parents loved it, and my client, though exhausted, felt so fulfilled.

As she sat in my office and recounted the events above she was grinning from ear to ear. She said she felt energized by the experience as well as having a sense of contentment. She was able to use her talents in way she enjoyed, bringing both joy to others and herself. That my friend, is finding the ease.

No Work required

This is what happens when you are traveling on the right path for you. It's feels fun and there is a sense of ease around it. When trying to get what you want the pieces of the puzzle all fit together perfectly. It's almost like you don't even have to try.

Maybe you are searching for a friend you have lost touch with and you spend some time on the internet hoping to find information that will lead you to connect with them. When you aren't expecting it you see a story on a tv show about a resource that helps people connect with people from their past. Or you get a phone call from a friend who out of the blue tells you they just heard about the person you are trying to reach and has a tip that will lead you to the next step. That is what I call synchronicity in play.

Where have synchronicities shown up for you?

Think back on your life and find a time when you were excited about something. It could be a project you were working on, planning a vacation, or cooking something new for a dinner party. Anything. Got it?

Now notice the ways you were able to get what you wanted and needed to move you forward with your plan. Really think about it...

What did you come up with? Did you find that some information you needed came to you without you really trying or that the timing of when something arrived could not have been better, even if you had planned it all out. Everything comes together, just so.

My clients and friends say this happens to them a lot. It happens to me too.

And that is where fulfillment is found

There is a pattern here. 3 steps. Feel the pull, follow your excitement, and find the ease. Maybe you did find your long-lost friend or the dinner party was successful, and you felt fulfilled. But fulfillment is not only found at the end of the journey, when you accomplish what you set out to do. It can be and is found in each step along the path.

When you feel the pull, you yearn for or desire something. That feels good. When you follow your excitement, you are doing something pleasurable and having fun. That feels good. When you find the ease, the puzzle pieces fit together without work and any effort is inspired. That feels good. Don't wait, fulfillment is right in front of you.

Where do you feel pulled now?

My Own Ease

Writing blog posts for you feels relaxed and fun. When I sit down to write, the ideas just flow. If I get stuck, all I have to do is walk away for a little while and will invariably read something in a book or hear someone say just the right word that I need to jumpstart my creativity again. I just have to be open to it happening. And it work because I felt the pull to write, followed my excitement in creating a blog and coming up with a bazillion ideas for posts, and find there is ease in the process of how it all unfolds.

If you were to ask me, I'd say its magic!!!!

And all you have to do is follow what feels good. That's all I do.

This completes the 3-part series about Finding Your Fulfillment. Join me next time as I get into what fulfillment really means.

Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it and hope you found it helpful. 

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!

Susan

P.S. I’d love to hear about what ease you have found when working towards something that excites you; what cool synchronicities have come up that just seem like they could not have been planned better? Leave a comment below or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

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