Find the Ease

This is the third post in the 3-part series about

Finding Your Fulfillment

In the past two week's posts I talked about Feeling the Pull, then Following your Excitement. Today I'm going to delve into Finding the Ease.

Do you remember the last time you took inspired action towards a change you want to make in your life or a goal you wanted to accomplish?  Really think back. Did you notice doors opening up that surprised you or crazy coincidences happening to help you? I don't believe in coincidences, or what some people call random happenings. I believe in synchronicities. This is how the universe  conspires to help make your goals a reality.

Finding the Ease

From the last two posts, let's return to my former client Sally who felt her pull to join the PTA and followed her excitement by wanting to use her creativity to put on a festival at her kid's school. She was welcomed with open arms to the organization, the person who headed up the festival from the previous year had just stepped down and they needed a new organizer, and she found just the right people at just the right time to help her with her projects. On the day of the festival, everyone she needed to show up and help out were there to do their jobs and fill in when needed. The carnival was an absolute hit with the kids, the parents loved it, and my client, though exhausted, felt so fulfilled.

As she sat in my office and recounted the events above she was grinning from ear to ear. She said she felt energized by the experience as well as having a sense of contentment. She was able to use her talents in way she enjoyed, bringing both joy to others and herself. That my friend, is finding the ease.

No Work required

This is what happens when you are traveling on the right path for you. It's feels fun and there is a sense of ease around it. When trying to get what you want the pieces of the puzzle all fit together perfectly. It's almost like you don't even have to try.

Maybe you are searching for a friend you have lost touch with and you spend some time on the internet hoping to find information that will lead you to connect with them. When you aren't expecting it you see a story on a tv show about a resource that helps people connect with people from their past. Or you get a phone call from a friend who out of the blue tells you they just heard about the person you are trying to reach and has a tip that will lead you to the next step. That is what I call synchronicity in play.

Where have synchronicities shown up for you?

Think back on your life and find a time when you were excited about something. It could be a project you were working on, planning a vacation, or cooking something new for a dinner party. Anything. Got it?

Now notice the ways you were able to get what you wanted and needed to move you forward with your plan. Really think about it...

What did you come up with? Did you find that some information you needed came to you without you really trying or that the timing of when something arrived could not have been better, even if you had planned it all out. Everything comes together, just so.

My clients and friends say this happens to them a lot. It happens to me too.

And that is where fulfillment is found

There is a pattern here. 3 steps. Feel the pull, follow your excitement, and find the ease. Maybe you did find your long-lost friend or the dinner party was successful, and you felt fulfilled. But fulfillment is not only found at the end of the journey, when you accomplish what you set out to do. It can be and is found in each step along the path.

When you feel the pull, you yearn for or desire something. That feels good. When you follow your excitement, you are doing something pleasurable and having fun. That feels good. When you find the ease, the puzzle pieces fit together without work and any effort is inspired. That feels good. Don't wait, fulfillment is right in front of you.

Where do you feel pulled now?

My Own Ease

Writing blog posts for you feels relaxed and fun. When I sit down to write, the ideas just flow. If I get stuck, all I have to do is walk away for a little while and will invariably read something in a book or hear someone say just the right word that I need to jumpstart my creativity again. I just have to be open to it happening. And it work because I felt the pull to write, followed my excitement in creating a blog and coming up with a bazillion ideas for posts, and find there is ease in the process of how it all unfolds.

If you were to ask me, I'd say its magic!!!!

And all you have to do is follow what feels good. That's all I do.

This completes the 3-part series about Finding Your Fulfillment. Join me next time as I get into what fulfillment really means.

Thank you for spending some of your time with me today. I really do appreciate it and hope you found it helpful. 

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!


P.S. I’d love to hear about what ease you have found when working towards something that excites you; what cool synchronicities have come up that just seem like they could not have been planned better? Leave a comment below or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

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Feel The Pull

This is the first post in a 3-part series about

Finding Your Own Fulfillment.

I’m on a new, unchartered, scary as hell (in a good way) entrepreneurial journey now. I up and left my job as a substance abuse counselor to claim my life as a Life Coach. This was not the life I had planned for myself 5 years ago. Entrepreneur?  Me? (insert hilarious rolling on the floor laughter here) Nope- I don’t have what it takes to do something like that…

The Pull

One of the clients I worked with at the methadone clinic (where people choose to go when they want to kick their addiction to heroin, vicadin, and oxycontin), had quite the interesting viewpoint on life. I’ll call him David. One day David said to me,” You know, if I had all the money in the world, I would be high as a kite all day every day, 24/7”.

WOW—I thought. Being high must feel pretty freakin’ awesome to want to spend all day in that state. Okay I’ll admit it; I’ve been high in my life. Back in my twenties I smoked marijuana… twice. Seriously, it was only two times. And for the record, I did inhale. After the second time, I woke up in the middle of the night vomiting chunks of who knows what all over my bed and decided right then and there, I think I’m done with marijuana.

But his statement got me wondering. Do YOU have a pull that is so strong, like David’s (minus the heroin of course), that whatever it is, you would do almost anything to have it? A desire filled with expectation and possibility? I know David did. He stole, lied, and cheated to get his heroin fix. That’s how important it was to him.

Maybe you have a pull that comes up from time to time and you push it down saying to yourself, no I could never do that. I don’t have the time, money, or ability…

I’m betting you do have a desire, tug, or pull towards something that lights you up, makes you grin from ear to ear, or makes you feel like you are free.

It could be you want more free time for yourself in your life, a better relationship with someone, or long to change something in your job, maybe change professions all together.

I know for sure that we all have pulls like that. Some are stronger than others but they are there.

Some of my clients get simple messages that say, take dance lessons, go on a ski, take a class at the local university,or have tortellini soup for dinner. Others hear their inner voice telling them to go climb Denali, quit their job, or get in bed and sleep for two days. Sometimes the messages we get make sense. Yes, going on a ski is good for my health and will make me feel better. Sometimes they don’t make any sense. Why on earth would I want to go climb Denali? But that’s the beauty in feeling and listening to the pull. It ALWAYS means something. Or it wouldn’t be there to get your attention.

Another of my clients I’ll call Sally also had a pull. Sally was a busy mom, raising 4 kids, feeling like her life was missing something. She absolutely loved being a mom and wife, but felt she had no room to use her creative side and blossom in another way. Her pull was to use her creative side in a way that she could DO something that was fulfilling to her by using her talents and strengths, felt super fun, and involve her kids. She was pulled to join the PTA. I have to say, the idea of joining the PTA feels a bit painful to me personally. Kind of like pulling out my leg hairs one... at... a... time. Let’s just say her pulls are different than mine, but that’s okay because your pulls are unique to you.

The question is, are you listening to the pull? What exactly is it telling you?

Would you be willing to spend five minutes in a quiet place with no distractions? You can try this now or later. If so, sit comfortably or lie down. Take a few long deep breaths focusing on the air entering and leaving your lungs. Then when you feel a sense of calm, ask the questions, what do I want? What do I feel pulled towards? Then wait.

Just notice what comes up.

It could be anything from (a whisper) I need a nap, to I want to run a marathon, to (a scream) my job really sucks and I want out. Your deeper self will show you all sorts of interesting and fascinating directions that you really want to go. Again, just notice. No judgment allowed here. Be willing to allow these ideas to come up, notice and just sit with the feelings that arise too. Do you feel a smile come across your face? Do you have a deep longing in your bones? Does it make you feel free? Whatever it is, let it be there, just notice it and allow it for now.

And here's the 10 million dollar secret...

Your specific unique brand of pull is the first step towards finding fulfillment for your own life. Those pulls we get are the nudges from the universe saying, "this is where you are meant to go, this is what you are meant to do". As simple as taking a walk right now or as complex as planning a move across the country.  Sometimes it's a more subtle nudge, and sometimes it's so strong you just cannot ignore it anymore and you must do something with it.

My own pull was super strong.

It came from deep inside my chest, past my heart, and into my soul. I can't really put it into words that would make sense. But if you've felt it, you know.  For me it was to train as a Life Coach, then start a Life Coaching business, and become an entrepreneur. A pull so strong that if I didn’t do it I knew something would remain missing in my life, that I would not be truly fulfilled.

I know I must allow my pulls to be there, and listen to what they have to say. With just a little practice of paying attention when I feel that tug, various pulls now speak to me all the time. My clients say the same thing happens for them. And after working with addicted individuals, let’s just say I’m super thankful my own pulls don’t lead me in the heroin direction ;).

Now that I’ve covered Feeling The Pull, next week I’ll delve into Following Your Excitement.

As always, take from here what works for you, share with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest, you can leave behind.

Bloom On!


P.S. I'd love to hear about your personal pulls. What do they say? What do you notice in your body when you have them? Leave a comment below or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

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