There is just something about a brand new year. I love pondering the previous year to discover what I enjoyed about my life. What worked well. And what didn’t work at all. This past year was one of the hardest I’ve had in recent memory. It was filled with tremendous loss. And after intentionally feeling the losses fully, I was able to find the gain. What did I learn about life, about myself, because of what I’ve experienced? How will I be different because of it all?
What I do know is that I do feel different. My energy is different.
A very interesting thing happened to me in early December, while I was vacuuming, of all things. I got a very clear message that I needed to “Take Charge” of my life. Well, of course I’m in charge of my life, I thought. Who else could possibly be? But it was really strong. The universe let me know it was time to take charge of my life in a very different way.
After sitting with what that revelation for a while it became more obvious in what areas of my life I was definitely not in charge, and where I needed to step up.
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How ironic that I’ve discovered I haven’t been nurturing my own life as well as I could have been. Now that I’m taking charge of nurturing my life differently this year, I thought there would be no better way than to do it together. Maybe you haven’t been nurturing your own life as well as you you’d like. I can tell you, it’s easier when you do it with someone.
The definition of nurture is to care for or encourage the growth or development of.
Aaaaaaahhhhhh... Just the sound of the word nurture makes me feel cared for and wrapped up in a warm fuzzy blanket.
What does the word nurture mean to you? Not what you do for others, but what do you do to nurture you?
Take a few minutes to think about what your life would look like if you nurtured it. Really nurtured it.
What would you do for yourself that you aren’t doing now?
What would you stop doing that is leaving you empty and depleted?
I invite you grab a piece of paper and pen, and draw a line down the middle of the paper vertically making two columns. In the first column, make a list of what you do consistently that feels nurturing to you. Ways you feel cared for and encouraged by you.
In the other column, write down ways you aren’t nurturing yourself. Things you do that after you’re done make you feel just blah.
I’m not even going to give you examples because there is no right or wrong way to answer these questions. Only your true self knows what real nurturing feels like to you. Your list could look very similar to someone else’s list, or completely opposite. That’s the beauty in having so many similarities and differences from others.
For the next week, I’d love for you to notice how often you actually do something for yourself that feels really nurturing. As well as how often you do things that end up making you feel crappy.
Over the next several weeks I’ll take one area of life and talk about ways in which you can nurture that part. As well as ways to tackle what keeps us from doing what we need to do for ourselves.
Maybe just a few areas need tweaking for you, maybe you need a full on transformation.
What I do know (after a ton of experience) is that changing something in your life takes time, deep focus, slowing down, and repetition.
As the saying goes, what you focus on grows. If you spend time nurturing yourself, you’ll feel cared for. If you don’t, you won’t. It’s that simple.
For me, part of nurturing my life means nurturing you in some way by sharing all I’ve learned in my life so far with you. And knowing that when you email me, comment on the blog, or I have the privilege of working with you as a coaching client, you nurture me. Because I learn so much from you as well. Our connection helps me grow. I hope it does the same for you.
Join me in Taking Charge of Nurturing Your Life in a whole new way in 2015!
Until next week…
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