Whats important is important, unless it isn't

If I sat down with you and asked what’s really important in your life, I bet you could give me a whole list of things. If I asked you how much time, attention, and focus you put on those important things, what kind of an answer would you give me then?

No judgment here on whatever that answer is, just a noticing.  important

I bring this up because it happens to me. I can tell you what I deem important in my life and then go right on my merry way spending time on things that aren’t on that list.

And that’s something to really notice.

What you spend your time on, money on, and attention on IS important to you, whether you realize it or not. Now some of these things may not be in your conscious awareness. For example, maybe you say to yourself my health is really important, and then you go to McDonald’s 3 days a week and order a big mac. Maybe your health isn’t as important as you thought. Or maybe the idea of being healthy sounds fabulous but doing all the work to be healthy doesn’t hop your bunny. And that’s okay. But it’s something to notice.

Does what you say is important line up with your actions?

Here’s an exercise.

1-    Spend 5 minutes writing down what’s really important to you

2-   Think about your day and how much time and energy you actually put into those things

3-   If the important stuff isn’t getting the time and energy, you get to decide if you want to put more energy into it or if it isn’t important as you thought.

4- If something really isn’t as important as you thought, drop it. Why waste your precious time and energy?

5- If it is important but you’re having a hard time putting energy and action towards it, ask yourself why you’re stuck. What is it that’s keeping you from moving toward your goal?

Understanding why can be super important with this. Back to the wanting to be healthy example. Maybe it’s because you’re afraid it will take too much time. It will hurt. You won’t get the results you’re hoping. Or it will be expensive.

Delve in, listen to your self. You know exactly why.

I can almost bet it’s based on your fear of the unknown. Because you can’t know what will happen in the future. What if I do all the things I’m supposed to do and I’m still not healthy, or happy?  Recipe for stuckness.

What I can tell you is that the fear is only in the thoughts that pop up around being healthy, in your mind. You get to decide if keeping them serves you or not.

But not doing anything will keep you right where you’re at. And if you’re happy there, great. If not, I suggest thinking a thought that empowers you  and taking one teensy weensy lady bug step towards what’s important. Something so easy you can do it in a blink. Then another, and another, and another, until not only are you putting energy and time towards what it is you find important, your goals actually get reached.

And here’s what I want to know, what IS important to you? Is there a topic, problem, issue, anything you’d like me to address on this community blog? Email me directly, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com and I’ll address it. I promise not to use your name.

Join the conversation on the blog by leaving a comment below, or email me, coachwithsusan@hotmail.com

I am grateful to be able to spend some time with you virtually today. Thank you.

As always, take from here what works for you, share this with your friends if you think they might benefit, and the rest… you can leave behind.

Bloom On!